Popsicle Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Are we talking intercontinental travel here? Because that's not cheap at all. The United States is huge but still one country. And without a train that zips you from country to country... Of course, there are people who travel for work too, but I don't think it's as fun when you have to do it. Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 I I have literally, more money than I need or know what to do with. No worries I'd be happy to relieve you of that burden. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Are we talking intercontinental travel here? Because that's not cheap at all. The United States is huge but still one country. And without a train that zips you from country to country... Of course, there are people who travel for work too, but I don't think it's as fun when you have to do it. I'm talking international. Why do you think I live on a 4 bedroom, 4 bathroom, seats 12 for dining, real kitchen, world cruising catamaran? It's so I can travel globally in the most cost effective manner. It works. I used to do like Justanaverage guy, but I want to live for more than a month in various places, so I made it so my home is capable of doing that... for free. (left out the nautical vocab for non marine types) Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 [quote=LookAtThisPOst;6388011 Also, you don't have to travel to have a sense of adventure. There's always the zipline adventures, airboat rides, kayaking untapped areas of the region, etc. Some of them even include Groupon Deals, it's great! :-) Those are not a patch on exploring a new country and it's cultures though - it's fun and fascinating and so much better once you have done all you want to do of the touristy bits and then check out the places popular with the locals. You mentioned cruises, they are like the package holidays of the past only more restrictive on destinations and timings. Must admit I don't know anyone my age or younger who has been on or is planning a cruise. If it's a standard or even up market cruise the options to explore are limited. If I ever went on a cruise I would do it the way my Dad did and be one of a few passengers on a cargo ship. My Dad has an amazing time and was away for 3 months. At the end of the day you don't need to date anyone who travels OP. If t's not for you then simply don't mail these ladies or don't respond/send a polite no thanks when they mail you. Link to post Share on other sites
whirl3daway Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Yes... women who like to experience new things, cultures, foods and people must be terrible human beings. You should definitely avoid them. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 You know what? Chance are if she's traveling, she's holding down a great job that pays well enough for her to be independent and do whatever the F she wants to do. She doesn't plan on curtailing her quality of life to accommodate a man either. She's having so much fun that finding a man isn't her highest priority. And if she loses one, oh, well, she's got the whole wide world to explore and the bazillion number of men in it. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 Yes, I have noticed a common theme that these people tend to be gyspy-like in nature. Some hop from town to town doing various odd jobs they could also be called Hobos Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 19, 2015 Author Share Posted June 19, 2015 I've been able to use my job as a way to travel for free. Some IT guys (or anyone) have a job that is so fortunate. I know an IT guy that works for the same company just fixing computers/network issues in the same building...sometimes he'll travel to a satellite store out of state on occasion to do some updating, but that's about it. Of course, he has a young child and his pay isn't lucrative. Link to post Share on other sites
MidwestUSA Posted June 19, 2015 Share Posted June 19, 2015 What do you spend the money on? Some shiny pick up truck? How very dull. Now you've gone and contradicted yourself. Well, maybe not. It's shiny for about a week, then the thrill wears off. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
scorpiogirl Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 Now you've gone and contradicted yourself. Well, maybe not. It's shiny for about a week, then the thrill wears off. Bite your tongue! If the truck knows what's good for it, it will never lose it's shine lest it be kicked to the curb. The trucks of yesteryear would never! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 The article described a girl with a pretty bad personality. I wouldn't date one like that no matter how she felt about travel. No one who is travel obsessed, or anything obsessed, is going to be easy to be with. On the other hand, some really great women like to get out and see the world. They aren't going to find it easy to stay with a guy who rarely leaves his neighborhood. Link to post Share on other sites
Rejected Rosebud Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 I LOVE to travel, so hereby I consider myself rejected by you! Ouch! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Imajerk17 Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 (edited) I actually checked out the article you posted a link to. The author actually was not putting down women who travel as "wrong" as you seemed to be thinking she did. In fact, the author was poking fun of **guys who are too uncool to handle a strong independent woman who actually wants more out of her life**. Did you miss that? Edited June 20, 2015 by Imajerk17 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author LookAtThisPOst Posted June 21, 2015 Author Share Posted June 21, 2015 I actually checked out the article you posted a link to. The author actually was not putting down women who travel as "wrong" as you seemed to be thinking she did. In fact, the author was poking fun of **guys who are too uncool to handle a strong independent woman who actually wants more out of her life**. Did you miss that? The article never mentioned how "uncool" it is. Not sure where you got that idea. But, I know it's "uncool" when the author said in some of the bullets, "Chances are, she can't hold a steady job." How is that good and "Don't date a girl who travels for she has chosen a life of uncertainty." The verbiage chosen gives the reader the impression the aforementioned individual she's giving men fair warning about is unstable and likely irresponsible. Link to post Share on other sites
salparadise Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 In my experience, when a woman says she likes to travel it usually means that she likes lots of vacations to exotic places, luxury hotels, fine dining, first class air travel... and that she's so appreciative of good companionship that she's offering as her treat :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Pillow Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 A guy I know (early 30s) said how he would love an international, independent, educated woman who challenges him... as long as she worked on the farm, taking care of the kids, in their small house in the middle of the prairie. We wished him well on his search. A lot of men value structure and hierarchy. Link to post Share on other sites
Jacob_Duluoz Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 I would be more worried about a woman with no ambition to see the world. Provided the finances are right and that she takes me along sometimes what's to worry? There is a difference though between being constantly on the move and savoring the moment. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 Isn't it just different horses for different courses? If you live in a small village and going to the local shop is just about as far as you want travel then a jet setting woman is obviously not going to be your first choice. But if you have a desire to see the world, then that jet setter may be exactly who you need. Neither outlook is actually wrong, they are just different. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
loveweary11 Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 What Elaine said. You just need to find your match. I have 2 potential LTRs developing. One with a traveler, one with someone who won't leave her area for an extended period of time. I'm like peas in a pod with the non traveler, but I'm giving the traveling girl a shot because we share that interest. Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 (edited) Read this article about "Don't date a girl who travels." On dating sites, I am running into a lot of women who tend to travel, for fun, internationally probably 3 to 5 times a year...these aren't the once every few years travelers either...and sometimes the man she dates, it may be a requirement that he would need to be on the same page with her. "Have passport, will travel!" "Have a passport, then we may be right for each other!" Personally, I cannot afford such luxuries and also I'm not THAT much into traveling they way some men are into sports or what not. Also, saving up a vacation at work takes time, too...so I'm wondering how she is able to be away from works weeks on end. Does her work give her a full 30 days vacation after working for a year. Saw this in that article: Chances are, she can't hold a steady job. Or she's probably daydreaming about quitting. She doesn't want to keep working her ass off for someone else's dream. She has her own and is working towards it. She is a freelancer. She makes money from designing, writing, photography or something that requires creativity and imagination. Don't waste her time complaining about your boring job. I've known women like this, spent time with one that's a LMT (Massage therapist), likes to travel...but typically an LMT job isn't' a lucrative one either...so I would gather there's some kind of instability in this person's life...as they probably get bored easily. I mean, I would like to travel on occasion...been on a couple of cruises if that counts...but it just isn't affordable to me either. Wouldn't mind going to Australia or New Zealand one o fthese days. Thoughts on this? Anyone met the travel-obsessed? Not sure what the problem is here. Don't date women who like to travel a lot if you don't like or can't afford it. As you've explained, it's clearly a big worldview and lifestyle compatibility thing, and therefore if that's not important to you fair enough, just don't date them. There are countless other women who feel the same. I never really know what to make of these types of threads, as you explain a type of woman you don't like or don't have a lot in common with and seem to want us to say how their choice is bad when all it is is that you don't see eye to eye so don't date them. I have to travel for work and I also do so for leisure. I have a huge desire to see the world and I'm looking for that in a man as well. This is definitely a worldview and lifestyle thing that you're either compatible with or not. Then again, most of my friends and I have been born in one country, grew up, lived in others, and travel and seeing the world is a common part of life and isn't about "luxury." So it makes sense we probably get on better with people who have similar kinds of life experience.....no big deal...I sure won't force a man to like or want to travel and if a guy immediately thinks traveling means I am rich, am a freelancer, can't hold a job or am a space alien for it, we CLEARLY are living in two different realities and that's A-ok. Even as a kid growing up traveling was something my parents did and we went on family vacations to other countries, learned other languages....I mean this was normal for me...so I see nothing unusual about it. I like a worldly man. I like a man who knows more about the world from experience and travel, who knows more than one language, who can think about things differently because he's familiar with other cultures, who is comfortable enough and curious enough about this vast world to want to see it....that is super attractive to me and I have little in common with men who are happy to live and die where they grew up or who are timid to venture out or just plain have zero interest in the world beyond their nose. That's just not for me. It's not that no one will like such a man, some women will and some women are just like that too, but for me, that seems like the most insipid life. So it again comes down to your worldview and what drives you in life and finding a partner who sees things as you do. P.S. Majority of the people I know who travel a lot tend to have pretty good jobs and a degree of independence in their work that allows them to manage their time and money in such a way that they can travel. But esp if you're young and child-free, why NOT see the world? Like I said, it boils down to a difference in values and mentality and likely those who have a desire to see the world are gonna be of a different mindset than those who don't and it will likely be a fundamental incompatibility. Edited July 12, 2015 by MissBee 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MissBee Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I actually checked out the article you posted a link to. The author actually was not putting down women who travel as "wrong" as you seemed to be thinking she did. In fact, the author was poking fun of **guys who are too uncool to handle a strong independent woman who actually wants more out of her life**. Did you miss that? Thanks for pointing this out! Clicked the article and realized it is definitely a tongue in cheek article and the author herself is a self-described "Yogi, Artist and Wanderer." It is definitely an article that is satirical...but obviously that point was lost. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
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