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thats_so_not_cool

I lived across the street from this guy. I found him extremely attractive and the entire time I lived there I never saw him with another female.

 

Unfortunately, I was in a relationship at the time and could not approach him or speak to him. I always felt a weird vibe though, like maybe he was attracted to me as well but could not speak to me due to obvious reasons.

 

I have since moved and I am no longer in a relationship. It's been months and I can't stop thinking about this guy. I even had a dream about him.

 

I put an ad on Craigslist missed connections and I think I found him, but I've yet to say who I am - I'm scared to say so. What if he's like omg, this bitch is crazy -

 

How do I phrase, "I used to live across the street from you and always found you attractive, but had a boyfriend" without sounding like a total stalker/weirdo/pathetic? He will know who I am, our front doors literally faced each other and we saw each other nearly every day in passing.

 

Is it too much?

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I think most men would be flattered, just say, hey remember me can I buy you a coffee some time? Just keep it easy.

 

Good luck

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How do I phrase, "I used to live across the street from you and always found you attractive, but had a boyfriend" without sounding like a total stalker/weirdo/pathetic? He will know who I am, our front doors literally faced each other and we saw each other nearly every day in passing.

 

Is it too much?

 

Nah, what's wrong with that? Do it. :)

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Just keep it casual, leave out the "found you attractive" bit and suggest meeting for coffee.

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Too much info....keep it simple "Hi I'm Sarah, the girl that lived right across from you, want to meet up for _____?

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If a woman was checking me out while she was in a relationship, I wouldn't wonder why she was no longer in that relationship.

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+1 to keeping it casual. Leave out the "attractive" word, and say "interesting" or something less intense!

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Too much info....keep it simple "Hi I'm Sarah, the girl that lived right across from you, want to meet up for _____?

 

that sounds like a booty call

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Lois_Griffin
I put an ad on Craigslist missed connections and I think I found him, but I've yet to say who I am - I'm scared to say so. What if he's like omg, this bitch is crazy ?

Well, you found some lost soul on Craigslist. I kind of doubt it's your neighbor.

 

Why don't you use the usual methods to find him like Classmates or Facebook or LinkedIn or Google? Craigslist is SUCH a freakin cesspool.

 

Before you say another thing, I'd make darned sure this person is who he CLAIMS to be.

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that sounds like a booty call

 

 

Men only dream that a woman would step up and ask them out for a coffee date.

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thats_so_not_cool

The responder turned out not to be him, but actually someone who ended up knowing both of us from the neighborhood. I asked him to please casually mention me and gauge the reaction. Long story short, we have exchanged #s and speak every day. I am no longer in the area, but contemplating moving back. Apparently he felt the same attraction and is just as shocked as I am that the attraction was mutual.

Very happy that I decided to reach out. :bunny:

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