love after love.

[minimariah]

in need of some positive and beautiful love stories.

 

i was hoping to read about those who had found love and happiness after being hurt, betrayed, left behind... with that same person OR with someone totally new, doesn't really matter.

 

so all of you who had gotten a divorce, who got cheated on and dumped, who lost their spouse by death... and then found a brand new love with someone else, please kindly share your story.

 

 

p.s. there was probably a thread like this already, if someone can link me i would be grateful (for some reason, i'm having difficulties searching through other threads).

Edited June 20, 2015 by minimariah

[Amy3]

Hi minimariah,

 

Nice to meet you. Just wondering what might have prompted your post? I'm wondering if it's that you've been hurt by someone and are now unsure about putting yourself out there again... to risk being hurt again? Just a punt.

 

I, like a load of people out there, can closely relate to your situation. I had my heart ripped out on several occasions. The worst was a long term partner who I found out was shagging his colleague. But coupled with the heartbreak/devastation/shame (whatever you want to call it) is a bunch of lessons that have helped me reduce the risk of me falling into the same traps with similar loser boyfriends in future.

 

I'm incredibly happy now with my partner of five years. Would you believe it, we met on the side of the road one Friday... literally! it was totally out of the blue, which I think made it that much more exciting.

 

As soon as we met, we realised very quickly we had the same tastes in music and hobbies. I thought he was lying, to flatter me. But as it turns out, he had been badly scarred by two previous cheating girlfriends.

 

We are both a bit scarred today because of what others have done to us in the past. But if we hadn't taken the chance to trust each other, we'd not be in the happy place we are today.

 

I don't know if this has helped any or been at all interesting. But I guess I wanted to reach out and let you know you aren't alone :-) And despite the lypping cheating bastards out there, there are still some kind, genuine, sincere souls waiting to meet you. You never know who you might meet on the side of the road.... literally!

 

All the best with things, I look forward to hearing how you get on.

[jen1447]

Only really happened once, with my first BF at the end of high school. Long, ugly story that can be reduced to the simple facts that he just turned his back on me, rather callously. No cheating, just "other options." It wasn't even a really long R but it was damaging in that I was deeply invested in him in a short time. Took me almost a year to recover, but when I did I fully embraced my bi side and got my first real GF, which was the first step to an extremely satisfying lifestyle since then.

[Friggia]

Absolutely!

 

My high school years were ruined because I was "hopelessly in love" (translation: downright obsessed) with my very first boyfriend that I had ever had. We broke up and got back together very briefly for a grand total of three times in the four years I knew him (and once even, got back with him for literally four hours until I found out he'd asked another girl out on the same day and she'd rejected him, so I was just convenient). In all, I was a very depressed teenager and my feelings surrounding all this affected nearly everything, and I thought that this was what love felt like - pain. But when I got to college, to my great and unexpected relief all of that changed and I got over him. I was alone for a while until I met what can truly and objectively be described as a great love and friendship with a boy. He was and is my very best friend and our relationship was very compatible and natural, and I'd never experienced that level of comradery and, above all, security with a guy.

 

Eight years into the future, my relationship with that guy took a serious turn for the worse and it became dark and depressing again until I went travelling and really started to feel good on my own again. That's when I met somebody else even to lift me out of the doldrums.

 

Life is cyclical, both happiness and sadness are temporary, and no matter how hopeless you think your situation is at the time, you can always count on good fortune coming your way again.