chili-sij Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 Hello everyone, this is my first time posting but I feel I could use some impartial advice. I’ve recently broken up with my partner of six years. The split has been very amicable and we’re on good terms but it’s still been a difficult time. I moved to this very small rural place to be with him, with the intentions (of both of us) that we would move on somewhere else one day. That’s not happened and now I have the opportunity to go somewhere else on my own, which is exactly what I’m planning to do. I’ve got a job lined up and I’m going to study a course so I can have a career. At the moment I’m working in admin for the local council and this is where my problem is. I love where I work and the people I work with; I have amazing friends who are very supportive and I’ve been told that if I stay I will have the opportunity of a career path. There’s been a lot happening lately and it’s all happened very quickly. Trying to arrange a new place to stay, get a job and a place on the course has been stressful and tiring, as well as still living with a man who I have an emotional past with. My granny died last week as well and I was very close to her – I feel like my head is going to burst with everything and I can’t seem to think straight. I’ve already handed my notice in and I’m due to finish this week but I haven’t got a flat yet or a start date for my new job – still waiting on word from both. Am I moving too quickly? Should I give myself time to gather my thoughts or should I just go for it and push through, knowing it will get better? Link to post Share on other sites
Poppyolive Posted June 20, 2015 Share Posted June 20, 2015 Hello, I'm sorry for your loss. Sometimes you got to take the bull by the horns and thrust yourself into a new you. It's a very exciting time. Here's what I would do, line up a flat, or at least air b&b accommodation for a little while. Whilst waiting for your start date, take some time to process all the changes. You can do this by having nice walks in your new home land. Research fun hobby classes, walk for hours, take a meditation course, by new furnishings, etc.....flip the stressful into positive. Make a list of what you can do now, the rest will follow. Another helpful thing is writing, buy yourself a new notebook and write your thoughts, perhaps a daily list of things you are grateful for. Find a new spot everyday to write in it. You'll look back in a year from now, feeling proud you did it. One step at a time. I'm excited for you Link to post Share on other sites
Author chili-sij Posted June 21, 2015 Author Share Posted June 21, 2015 Hi, thanks for your reply. You're right in that I need to take some time to process everything and to take it all one step at a time. My biggest reason for thinking about delaying moving is that I have such good support here and when I move I will be completely on my own in a strange place. I've done this before but I've never had to leave a place where I'm really comfortable before and it's adjusting to this that's the hardest part. I actually love writing! I used to do it all the time and I haven't been lately because of everything going on but I think I will start again Link to post Share on other sites
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