Redemption04 Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 There's a guy I've been kissing and there's a problem that never seems to go away: We knock teeth while kissing. Not occasionally. No, ALL THE TIME. Like probably 1-2 times a makeout session, or often even during not passionate kissing. Example? Tonight he kissed me goodbye and like on the second kiss, we knocked teeth. And it hurt. Has anyone else ever experienced this? What causes it? I googled it and couldn't really find much. Is it me? Is it him? I'm super self conscious--I have an overbite, and a bit of an overjet--meaning my front teeth stick out more than they should. I've always hated it and it makes me feel like my teeth are ugly. My orthodontist couldn't fully correct it. So when this tooth knocking goes on, my first thought is, "Oh it's me. It has to be my fault. It's my teeth." But...I've kissed 11 men in my life. I've NEVER, EVER, EVER, knocked teeth with someone like this. I've probably only had that happen twice before, and both times were when drunk or really, really passionately going at it. I've kissed men ranging from their first kiss (no experience) to guys who had probably kissed 20-30 women. And none ever commented on my teeth. I've even gotten compliments I'm a good kisser. I've asked the guy I keep doing this with if this is normal for him to crash teeth with someone so much. He doesn't really seem upset by it. His comment, "Um well maybe I like to get a little to aggressive." Any idea why this happens? It hurts. It's painful. Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 Your fella has answered your question for you. I've only experienced this when a guy has kissed too aggressively and yes it does hurt. Give your guy some kissing lessons. I very much doubt he will have any issues with it. He will most likely say 'When do we start? Now?' : Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 (edited) No its not your fault, I remember kissing before I got my overbite corrected that never happened. But I have experienced the teeth knocking with a few different guys, my conclusion? They were terrible at kissing they opened their mouths way too much and pushed their face into mine too much. I have a horrible memory of this one guy who liked to French I hate frenching btw but I did it for him and lose his concentration and just leave his mouth open pressed on my face with no movement and every time id pull away and be like okay if you're gonna do that can we just kiss normally? *shiver* ugh it was so gross lol Edited June 24, 2015 by Omei 1 Link to post Share on other sites
cessna Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 I've only ever had this with one girl I kissed and it was simply because she was a horrible kisser. Others commented the same with the same girl. Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 I have to admit I giggled about this. Sounds like he's a face-masher. That means he's either crashing his face into you like others have said or imo more likely he's peeling back his lips and pecking at you like a bird with his tongue stuck out. Peeling back the lips means your teeth are exposed front and center. Also sounds like he may have issues perceiving spacial relationships and not know when he's in too close. Guys seem to often struggle with these sorts of things and not understand that kissing is primarily a function of the lips. Not the whole face obvs but also not primarily the tongue - but the lips. The lips are an automatic buffer that should protect you from most clashing. They're also fantastically sensual to kiss with! Is he trainable? Some guys are, some guys just flat out aren't. But I'd try sitting him down and telling him to just sit still and let you do to him what you'd like him to do to you and see if he gets it. Then practice. And if you ever see him closing in like a vulture ready to attack, punch him in his testicles and remind him of your lessons. Either that or just get a girl - we automatically kiss better. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Lansing Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 A bad kisser is a pretty big deal breaker for me. If I was hitting teeth I don't know how long I would last with the girl. I have had some girls be overly aggressive and even that was a turn off for me. I agree with what the other poster mentioned. Get him to relax and be less aggressive and see if that helps. You kiss him vs. him kissing back for a bit.. I don't think it has anything to do with you front teeth. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Redemption04 Posted June 24, 2015 Author Share Posted June 24, 2015 This makes me feel a little better. I feel like I have tried to teach him. Saying things like "Let go of your lip" and "Here, like this" or "this feels nice" when something is done correctly. Yet it keeps happening. It's gotten to the point where I know it's coming, and I don't look forward to kissing him. And the teeth smashing isn't just happening during PASSIONATE kisses--it happens during quick kisses. When we're not knocking teeth, the kissing still isn't great, but I've come to accept with men it often isn't. The funny part is...Our first kiss wasn't like this. The first time we made out was actually really good, and his teeth never made contact once. Link to post Share on other sites
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