Apaige Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 My Ex left me (of course, for the younger girl)...and might I add, at the most horrible time of my life. My mother passed in December, and he left me in January. My (then husband) of 14 years, left me then...when I needed him the most. At any rate, fast forward of almost 3 years, and we are finally getting along. I have to say, it was nice; we had an hour long phone conversation about the kids, their grades, his work schedule, things that happend, our anger toward one another... I miss something. I don't know what it is, but I miss maybe US (our family) those conversations, the joking, us getting along...could it be that we will soon be friends again? Am, I really having feelings for him? It's so scary to think this. He did me wrong in so many ways, and I swore I'd hate him forever for that...but I miss him being with us (me and the kids). It's not that I miss him physically, or that I look at him, and get butterflies, or anything like that. Is this normal? It can't be right? I mean it's been almost 3 years...ugh! Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 24, 2015 Share Posted June 24, 2015 You miss being in a relationship I don't think you miss him as much as I think you miss the good portions of the relationship with him. You need to remember why you divorced. Just recently you posted that he is an idiot and go on about how he treated you. It doesn't to me, sound like you are at a point of indifference where you can just be friends. Too many emotions still involved. It's been three years and the divorce finalized more recently and I didn't read through the whole background, but it appears that you haven't met anyone to be in a long term relationship with. You want that. I think most of us on here do as well. We don't necessarily miss our ex, but we miss the way the relationship felt when it was at it's best. We want to feel that again. Feel secure in having a partner there along side us. Relationships are hard to develop and sometimes it's easier for us to just want to get back into the old one because it's familiar and whether it was good or not good, at least it was a relationship. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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