RoseyLife Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 hi. my friend suggested i look on this matrimonial website (dating website?) and i happened to find someone who is both handsome and seems to have good morals. i am still young 21 but i want to date someone who is serious, so i thought a matrimonial website would be a good place to look. so now i need to pay $30 to get his contact email. what do you think. should i wait for him to pay to get my email or should i go ahead and pay it to get his contact email. also i am a little hesitant about this. this is my first time doing this kind of thing and he lives in a different state than me. however i will be working in that state over the summer. not because of him, just because of the way things worked out. so we might be able to meet and get lunch or something (?) looking down the long run, if this works out, is it natural to tell parents and friends 'oh we met online'? does this seem strange or desparate to you? i am a pretty good looking female and lots of guys at parties try to get my info. but i am really picky with guys and they have to have good morals and be serious and solid about me. sooo that is the whole reason i went to this site... does that sound like good justification to you.... sorry there are many questions in this post. if you could give your opinion on them that would be wonderful. thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 I don't particularly like having to resort to meeting girls online but that's what I gotta do sometimes, when the fish aren't biting at all in the real world. I also don't particularly like saying, "Yeah, we met online," 'cuz...I dunno...it's just kinda silly and geeky, but I've done it before and it worked out once or twice...but the other times...holy lord....biiiig mistake. Anyway. Join Myspace. It's free and essentially the same thing only it's a little tough to weed thru all the bulls*** people on there who just want attention. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseyLife Posted April 30, 2005 Author Share Posted April 30, 2005 also he has a student visa and did not seem too picky with his criteria for girls. do you think he is just looking for someone to get married to so he become a citizen. does it seem right to pay $30 to get someone's contact email address.. should i do it or wait for him to do it? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 More than likely, yeah, he's looking for a way to stay, but I can't say for sure obviously. Sounds like it, though. Wait for him to do it, I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseyLife Posted April 30, 2005 Author Share Posted April 30, 2005 ok... even though i initiated contact Link to post Share on other sites
alicia24 Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 I highly reccommend Myspace as well. Im on there just to make friends, but you can post a profile for dating too. its a fun little site Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseyLife Posted April 30, 2005 Author Share Posted April 30, 2005 thanks for your suggestions it is just that i already initiated contact with this guy and from his picture and his profile he seems really great. i want to take it one at a time, plus with the matrimonial sites i think you are getting someone who is a lot more serious about dating. i am looking for someone who is pretty traditional and conservative. also he seems pretty laid back which i like, but that also implies he might not be willing to shell out the $30 (which i must say is a bit ridiculous) to get my contact email. so... it's either i look desperate by paying the $30 especially since i first initiated contact, or it's either him paying the $30 and thus looking at this as a big investment and possibly putting a lot of pressure on me. another question, too: do most people who put their info on matrimonial websites looking to get married right away or just to date casually first? Link to post Share on other sites
UCFKevin Posted April 30, 2005 Share Posted April 30, 2005 Alicia, it's a fun place but it's also pathetic. Seeing all those almost naked people looking for vindication from others they don't even know, for their very low self esteem, it's pretty sad. The girls with the finger covering the nipple, kissing another girl just to get attention or pursing her lips like a fool, and the guy with a cloth over his wang, flexing in the mirror and taking a picture. Link to post Share on other sites
Author RoseyLife Posted May 1, 2005 Author Share Posted May 1, 2005 lol i agree kevin. well it has been a week actually since i found out he replied positively to my "wink" on this website. the next step is to pay this $30 to get his contact email. i don't know, it just seems sort of awkward/funny. he has not paid this $30 or else he would have e-mailed me by now... so should i go ahead and pay it? or does that just make me look desperate. especially since i initiated contact with him first. Link to post Share on other sites
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