Mizz Layta Posted June 25, 2015 Share Posted June 25, 2015 My ex met someone else but I don't know if he still with this women since we haven't been in contact.I had a big crush on someone else shortly afterwards but it didn't work out.It turned out that he has a live in gf.My crush left the company now he is gone ,out of the picture. I haven't dated anyone since. Now 8 months later I find myself starting to miss my ex.I didn't miss him at all in the beginning. All I could think about was my crush and my was not in my mind at all has that ever happened to you? Where you were so busy, or angry...or even attached with another (distracted).....that it took months for "that feeling" to sink in? Is it inevitable to feel it? (even if it takes months) or can you bypass it entirely? Link to post Share on other sites
Lizrd3000 Posted June 25, 2015 Share Posted June 25, 2015 My ex met someone else but I don't know if he still with this women since we haven't been in contact.I had a big crush on someone else shortly afterwards but it didn't work out.It turned out that he has a live in gf.My crush left the company now he is gone ,out of the picture. I haven't dated anyone since. Now 8 months later I find myself starting to miss my ex.I didn't miss him at all in the beginning. All I could think about was my crush and my was not in my mind at all has that ever happened to you? Where you were so busy, or angry...or even attached with another (distracted).....that it took months for "that feeling" to sink in? Is it inevitable to feel it? (even if it takes months) or can you bypass it entirely? We arent robots... we cant "bypass" it. You just need to ride it out and deal with the feelings, so they say. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
eye of the storm Posted June 25, 2015 Share Posted June 25, 2015 Sometimes it isn't the Ex you miss. It is being with someone. Being part of a couple. But no matter what it is, ride it out. They are Exs for a reason. Link to post Share on other sites
Thistooshallpass21 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 Just out of curiosity who dumped who? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mizz Layta Posted June 26, 2015 Author Share Posted June 26, 2015 Just out of curiosity who dumped who? We broke up mutually because of the distance.We stayed in contact but he ended up meeting someone else closer.I decided to cut off contact so I can move on myself.We haven't been in contact since. I am not planning to break NC but I cant help myself to miss him Link to post Share on other sites
Thistooshallpass21 Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 We broke up mutually because of the distance.We stayed in contact but he ended up meeting someone else closer.I decided to cut off contact so I can move on myself.We haven't been in contact since. I am not planning to break NC but I cant help myself to miss him How far was the distance? Also it's normal to miss your ex, but that raises the question do you miss the person or just having a relationship? Link to post Share on other sites
Itspointless Posted June 26, 2015 Share Posted June 26, 2015 (edited) has that ever happened to you? Where you were so busy, or angry...or even attached with another (distracted).....that it took months for "that feeling" to sink in? Is it inevitable to feel it? (even if it takes months) or can you bypass it entirely? I think many people just suppress while all the time thinking that means coping well. I can tell you that is simple and plain BS. Emotions cannot be bypassed, they stick into your body and can cause other problems when we ignore them for too long. And no it never happened to me. I did loose a parent in adolescence thought. That death was the end of some horrible years of witnessing despair and pain. For some reason, it all was too much, now I know that it made me dissociate. I had no say in it, it just happened. Everything had lost its meaning and felt emptier than I ever could have imagined. But whenever something emotional happened it triggered those feelings beneath the surface. Dating someone else is a defence mechanism that allowed you to ignore. You have some work to do. Edited June 26, 2015 by Itspointless Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mizz Layta Posted June 26, 2015 Author Share Posted June 26, 2015 How far was the distance? Also it's normal to miss your ex, but that raises the question do you miss the person or just having a relationship? 4 hours apart and neither of was in position to relocate.It was inevitable that one of us was going to find someone closer ...he got there first Link to post Share on other sites
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