Jencr Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 -My ex boyfriend broke up with me a month and half ago because he couldn't give me what I wanted in a relationship, and I agreed. He then said that maybe it was too soon to break up (which was confusing, since he started the talk). I said that it was the right thing to break up. He said that he would love it if we could be friends. I told him to wait for me to be the first to talk to him. -A week later he texted me, saying that he knew that I said I should be the first to initiate contact and that it is okay if I didn't want to talk to him. I went ahead and talked to him anyways. We talked about trivial things. At the end he finished with "coffee sometime?" And I said "sure!". Three weeks later, he contacted me again, we talked about trivial things again, and he said he was traveling soon for 2 weeks and he would like to have coffee with me before he left. He messaged me two days before he left, saying that he had been super busy but if I had time tomorrow we could grab a coffee. The next day I replied, he said he couldn't right away, bu that he would let me know. I waited until he texted when he was free, and when I got tired of waiting I texted him and he said he was just about to tell me that he couldn't make it, because he was traveling the day after and he left everything to the last minute. I got super mad and stopped answering. An hour later he texted "sorry" but I did not reply. -The next day he texted me "what happened?". I told him that I realized that it was too soon to be back in touch and that I needed much more time to be able to have any kind of relationship with him. He said "well, I understand. Then I said "That's it?". He then said "I miss you", and I replied "I would be lying if I told you that I didn't miss you too, but we knew it was going to be hard". He then told me "I know, well, I want to see you.". I told him to give me time. -He is not a guy who lets his guard down easily. Is there something else behind his behaviour? Would he want to get back together?? Link to post Share on other sites
Thistooshallpass21 Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 I would wait to see how it goes after he gets back from traveling. It seems as though you wanted the break up more than he did considering he ended up saying he felt like you guys broke up too soon. Maybe you can work your issues out you both seem to still have interest. Overall only time will tell! If it makes you feel better about him being busy (which I honestly think he truly was busy) my ex and I tried to do the whole hanging out thing both agreed on it and went by a time table she made of how long we'd wait after the break up. When it came to that time we planned a day and then immediately afterwards she decided she wanted to wait an extra week. When that next week came around she decided she didn't want to meet anymore as she didn't trust herself. She said her feelings would come back up (one month after BU and she dumped me) haven't talked since. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Jencr Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 I would wait to see how it goes after he gets back from traveling. It seems as though you wanted the break up more than he did considering he ended up saying he felt like you guys broke up too soon. Maybe you can work your issues out you both seem to still have interest. Overall only time will tell! If it makes you feel better about him being busy (which I honestly think he truly was busy) my ex and I tried to do the whole hanging out thing both agreed on it and went by a time table she made of how long we'd wait after the break up. When it came to that time we planned a day and then immediately afterwards she decided she wanted to wait an extra week. When that next week came around she decided she didn't want to meet anymore as she didn't trust herself. She said her feelings would come back up (one month after BU and she dumped me) haven't talked since. It didn't feel like it was me who wanted it more since he initiated the breakup. I was very confused by him saying that it was maybe too soon. I just understood that it was the right decision because we both had doubts. I'm sorry about you and your ex. She seems pretty invested in the relationship still, because of how much it seems to affect her that she can't see you yet. I can relate! Link to post Share on other sites
casey.lives Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 breaking up is about cutting ties with people ORrrrr about coming at things differently.. :/ Link to post Share on other sites
Simon Phoenix Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 (edited) He probably does miss you, but that does not necessarily mean he wants to be with you. And if he did, he'd tell you. He was able to break up with you, he'd be able to ask for you back if that's what he wants to do. Edited June 27, 2015 by Simon Phoenix Link to post Share on other sites
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