HansonGirl Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 (edited) If a grown man is visibly nervous around a woman why would that be ? I'm not exaggerating. Difficulty speaking. Fidgeting. Looks uncomfortable and tense. Why would a grown man be that nervous around a woman. And if the reason is because he is interested, and he becomes less nervous over time, is that because he's no longer interested? Not even a little bit? Like a man could go from having difficulty speaking and a speech impediment to being completely fine and uninterested?! So what are the possible reasons a man would be sooo tense and nervous around a woman (if the reason was other than interest) ??? Because frankly whatever the girl is doing to cause a man to quiver in their boots shed like to possibly correct the problem. Edited June 27, 2015 by HansonGirl Link to post Share on other sites
True Gent Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 Sounds like he is incredibly shy and could have a social anxiety disorder. It's nothing major if he can relax and open up over time. There is a good chance he is interested if he is as awkward as described, but people with social anxiety can be a bit like that anyway. If he is given a chance to get to know you better and feel more comfortable, he should show his true self a lot more. If a person like this is interested and over time they become less tense and more open, it doesn't mean they are no longer interested. If anything it means they are liking you more and are feeling more confident around you. Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 You do understand that men have the onus of starting a relationship mostly on them, right? You are cognitive that men are being pushed to succeed at every turn and they have the same hopes, fears and dreams as you, right? They get nervous moatly because they are trying to establish something important in their lives. Yeah, we have feeling too. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 You do understand that men have the onus of starting a relationship mostly on them, right? You are cognitive that men are being pushed to succeed at every turn and they have the same hopes, fears and dreams as you, right? They get nervous moatly because they are trying to establish something important in their lives. Yeah, we have feeling too. Yes I understand that. I don't think they'd be super nervous around a woman because they are trying to establish something important in their lives (unless you mean a relationship with her). My question was what other non-romantic reasons would explain this behavior because in this scenario the man was not interested romantically. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 Social anxiety, or a specific anxiety around women. One poster here on LS developed that after being the subject of abuse on OLD and having no success with women in general. He became anxious and panic stricken in the presence of women. I guess there may also have been deeper issues, issues perhaps due to previous relationships or even childhood issues. Link to post Share on other sites
Author HansonGirl Posted June 27, 2015 Author Share Posted June 27, 2015 Social anxiety, or a specific anxiety around women. One poster here on LS developed that after being the subject of abuse on OLD and having no success with women in general. He became anxious and panic stricken in the presence of women. I guess there may also have been deeper issues, issues perhaps due to previous relationships or even childhood issues. Aww that story about the abused guy makes me really sad :-(. She must have been a monster. I'm curious about that. Link? (Can pm me if you want) Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 Some guys (I have seen it on here numerous times) don't see women as just another human being, they see them as a different species and therefore just cannot communicate with women. It's as if they don't think women would talk about every day type things and that men and women can't just be friends too. I know a few guys who will totally blank a woman in a group conversation because he is not attracted to her. If he has that ingrained then he will not be at all comfortable around any woman whether he is attracted or not. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 I've certainly known guys with social anxiety who are uncomfortable talking to everyone except their family. Male or female. They just have problems. Problems you would be taking on and then wish you hadn't, as a friend of mine did. So she now has a husband who hides in his room at holidays. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
newmoon Posted June 27, 2015 Share Posted June 27, 2015 agree with most people - it stems from social anxiety and, perhaps, extreme shyness. if you really watch their behaviors you'll see it with everyone and not just a pretty woman. Link to post Share on other sites
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