Author chubachoop Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 guess what... Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by Skeered K so what do you do to make things easier when your boyfriend is 2200 miles away...I don't get to see him at all but talk to him nightly...it's sooooooo hard to not be lonely...I know that we are both workin toward a common goal right now of him moving out here to be with me and my daughter since I can't move because my XH won't allow me to leave the state. So we talk on the phone nightly and lots on the weekends and try to be as much together as we can but I tell you what when I hang up the phone at the end of the night and go to bed I feel so lonely... So what do I do with that..lol Well, how long until he moves? talking to my bf makes me feel better, not worse... So I don't know how you would deal with that? Link to post Share on other sites
Author chubachoop Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 yeah! Link to post Share on other sites
Skeered Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Oh I didn't mean for that to sound like talkin to him makes it worse it's just harder because I miss him so much more after we talk..does that make sense.. He is plannin on a couple of months so we can each get some things straightened out and start our relationship on a strong positive note...it's awesome how he thinks things through and doesn't act solely on emotion but it's so hard to not have him here by my side.. Link to post Share on other sites
corry42 Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Well, I'm in a LDR too. We live like 700km apart, and we both go to university, so we only get to see each other for a few days once a month. To make matters worse, she doesn't have a computer. We call each other every two days or so. But despite the distance we've been together for three years. So maybe I can give you some hints? Well, not really. We used to write a lot. Long 20-page long letters. But we don't anymore, university is taking up a lot of time, and we know each other so well filling 20 pages is not as easy as it was. So now we text each other. (It's strange that no matter how many times you say "I love you", it never gets old ) I wish I could say the distance gets more bearable as the years pass, but that's not really the case. It even gets worse when you start seeing each other more often. The most important thing in a LDR is that you always should have a common goal. This will make the waiting seem less like a waste of time. We both have to finish university, so our current long-term goal is to finish our Bachelor and move in with each other when we start our Master. On the short term, we want to see each other as often as uni and money permits (because 100€ per month just for the tickets is expensive). Oh, and, sorry to say this, but there might eventually come a time when your relationship gets "tested". It happened to us on both sides. We both ran into someone who fell in love with us and gave us all the attention that comes with it. This attention is flattering, and you may start wondering if it wouldn't be so much easier just to find someone who lives in the same country. But it just takes a little willpower to break away from this person, because the love is stronger than the distance, and after that you'll feel so much stronger. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by Skeered Oh I didn't mean for that to sound like talkin to him makes it worse it's just harder because I miss him so much more after we talk..does that make sense.. He is plannin on a couple of months so we can each get some things straightened out and start our relationship on a strong positive note...it's awesome how he thinks things through and doesn't act solely on emotion but it's so hard to not have him here by my side.. Ok. Sounds like a great guy! You know guys show their love by actions, like changing a light bulb or fixing something around the house. Your guy is showing his love by planning how to get to you! You'll just have to be patient. It's worth it for love. Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Great advice corry! That's great that you've been so successful. Link to post Share on other sites
Skeered Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn Ok. Sounds like a great guy! You know guys show their love by actions, like changing a light bulb or fixing something around the house. Your guy is showing his love by planning how to get to you! You'll just have to be patient. It's worth it for love. Thank you and you are so very very right..and Corry your advice was right on...no matter what, I know I love this guy and no distance could take that away I know in time we will be together and that is our common goal. As I see it now we have our whole lives together so to take this time to get things started right can't be a mistake. I started out my marriage on a very sour note with lots of debt and problems and I see where that landed me..hee hee so since that didn't work after 10 years of struggling...I don't want to go there with him. Link to post Share on other sites
Author chubachoop Posted May 3, 2005 Author Share Posted May 3, 2005 Thats good advice corry Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
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