confused1027 Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 Every time i tell myself it's over and i'm through with him but he always seems to pull me back in. my friends and family now look at me differently because im not true to my word when i say 'that was his last chance'. we're currently broken up for the 3rd time and he wants me back. do i give in? Link to post Share on other sites
darkbloom Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 Read your title to this post over and over again. There is your answer. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 "Read your title to this post over and over again. There is your answer." there was no sense in me trying to improve on what the previous poster wrote. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted June 28, 2015 Share Posted June 28, 2015 Well, see.... OK. I third the motion. Link to post Share on other sites
foolinlove79 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Ive been in the same cycle for 6 years now and he has broken up with me countless times. Last time we got back together hr swore he wouldnt do it again. Guess what...he did. And as usual a month after with no contact from me he sends the standard..im sorry. Im sad. You were my best friend. Well i have had enough. It is really hard i know because you still love them. Add to that the high when you get back together anf things are great until the next time. I for one have had enough and really want to move on from this awful unhealthy draining cycle. Link to post Share on other sites
foolinlove79 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 And i know what you mean about friends and family. My family dont understand why i keep taking him back when they say he will do the same thing and he always does. My friends dont even want to hear about it anymore because they are like oh you will just get back together again. Link to post Share on other sites
candie13 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 it's not about getting back together, it's about understanding why you're breaking up to begin with. What's causing you to pull away. Unless you understand and fix that, you'll keep going back and breaking up endlessly. I've been in a rollercoaster RS for 10 month - we broke up in month 6 and it was never the same. Should have ended it muuuuuch sooner, but couldn't quite make out what was wrong. He was wrong. Sometimes it's the only reason you need to know, before moving on. I've been through this, now I know. And i say to myself: never again. Too old for that sh"t. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Ive been in the same cycle for 6 years now and he has broken up with me countless times. Last time we got back together hr swore he wouldnt do it again. Guess what...he did. And as usual a month after with no contact from me he sends the standard..im sorry. Im sad. You were my best friend. Well i have had enough. It is really hard i know because you still love them. Add to that the high when you get back together anf things are great until the next time. I for one have had enough and really want to move on from this awful unhealthy draining cycle. You know the score, you know the pattern, you know what to do. He doesn't love you, he just picks you up and dumps you when he feels like it, so why are you wasting your time with this loser? Your friends and family have washed their hands of you as I guess they cannot see the sense of you moaning about the situation, they give you good advice and all you do is ignore it and go back to him anyway. YOU either accept it is what it is and you are hooked until on one of those breaks he finds someone he does really want to be with and he dumps you for good, or you take charge of your life and say "No more" and never look back. Link to post Share on other sites
elaine567 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 it's not about getting back together, it's about understanding why you're breaking up to begin with. What's causing you to pull away. Apparently he keeps breaking up with her. Link to post Share on other sites
sandylee1 Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Apparently he keeps breaking up with her. I think candie means why are they breaking up as in what's his reason for breaking up. I could be wrong though Link to post Share on other sites
autumnnight Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Regardless of why, it seems like he is using this little breaking up pattern as manipulation. I would just block him from all modes of communication and move on. And I'm kinda mad at you for making me have that Taylor Swift song stuck in my head.....lol Link to post Share on other sites
darkbloom Posted June 29, 2015 Share Posted June 29, 2015 Here's a pro tip: if everyone in your life is giving you the same advice and you keep ignoring it, you are in the wrong. You know when you're watching a scary movie in the theater and everyone in the audience is like 'dont open the door!' to the girl in the movie who was going to go investigate the strange noise outside in the middle of the night by herself? You are that girl. Except you know the monster on the other side is probably going to hurt you but you're hoping for bunny rabbits or flowers when you open the door. Link to post Share on other sites
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