His brother is a tumor in my life!

[elaine567]

This is an older man 18 years older than the OP, with I guess an older brother.

 

OP will struggle to improve her lot, whist staying in her home, especially as her husband has said he is averse to her working too. Of course he is averse to that, she may see the world does not actually revolve around him and his brother...

 

The husband is in control, OP is out of her home country with poor relatives so no help there and she has a disabled son too, which also limits her options.

The husband is I guess of a "woman live in the kitchen" mindset and he is backed up here by his brother too.

He is now getting angry re he OPs complaints. He wants to shut her down, as the arrangement as it stands suits him very well.

 

There is only one option I see here to improve her life, the OP has to leave, before she gets pregnant and receives another shackle to add to her burden and another reason for the brother to be upset about too. The BIL will not want his brother to have children as that may complicate his own inheritance rights.

I am also a bit concerned the brother is actually jealous and desires the OP for himself.

That is another reason the OP needs to leave pronto.

[sandylee1]

The BIL probably doesn't want a baby that will keep him awake at night.......and drive him crazy..........

[newlywedder]

I read this whole thread and see lots of valid arguments on what you need to do. I also recommend that you give an ultimatum that you and your son will leave if this brother isn't removed from the picture. Be firm about it so he won't think you are bluffing. I also like the lawyer idea because it will be free for a consultation on your rights and what you can legally do. I fear this brother will assault or rape you and another poster said that your husband would probably take his side on it. This looks like an abusive situation that is harming you emotional and will end up harming you physically too in the long term.

[newlywedder]

This is an older man 18 years older than the OP, with I guess an older brother.

 

OP will struggle to improve her lot, whist staying in her home, especially as her husband has said he is averse to her working too. Of course he is averse to that, she may see the world does not actually revolve around him and his brother...

 

The husband is in control, OP is out of her home country with poor relatives so no help there and she has a disabled son too, which also limits her options.

The husband is I guess of a "woman live in the kitchen" mindset and he is backed up here by his brother too.

He is now getting angry re he OPs complaints. He wants to shut her down, as the arrangement as it stands suits him very well.

 

There is only one option I see here to improve her life, the OP has to leave, before she gets pregnant and receives another shackle to add to her burden and another reason for the brother to be upset about too. The BIL will not want his brother to have children as that may complicate his own inheritance rights.

I am also a bit concerned the brother is actually jealous and desires the OP for himself.

That is another reason the OP needs to leave pronto.

 

I wonder if the husband and BIL have been conspiring at the beginning for one of them to marry a "mail order" bride and use her for free housekeeping. It would make a whole lot of sense as to why the husband has not kept his promise and found another place without the brother.

 

The fact that the brother is sneaking up on the OP and showing her his naked butt leads me to believe he gets aroused by her. This sounds like a dangerous situation for the OP and she needs to take immediate action. If not for her sake, then the well being of her child.

 

It is harmful to a child to see his mother being treated like slave and may provoke him to have opinions that women are inferior beings. This could be disastrous for him with any future relationships with women.