Moving forward without her

[Shetland]

6 months of coping and NC and yes there are better days. But I must also say everyday is still a fight. I still think about her everyday and especially so when I am stressed out from other events in my life.

 

I'm coming out of college now and my first day of work is tomorrow. And its a great company, good pay, and I am thankful for having a job right out of college.

But I must admit, it's a pretty stressful and tiring job. I interned at the same company last year and I remember my then gf would always be very supportive. She was always waiting for me after work ended, called me when I worked late in the office. Always had encouraging words to help me get through that work week. Just there for me when life got tough.

 

And this year, she's not here, and I am questioning my ability to handle a full time role without her support. I want to do a great job, but I'm afraid i will be walking into and out of work miserable all the time.

I know I should grow a pair and toughen up and I am prepared to get through this like a champ. There are worse situations where people had to learn to stand on their own two.

 

But I know I will hit a soft spot when I leave the office lobby and she's not there waiting for me. And for that moment, I come to LS for some words of support.

[xinaxxsdertf]

im right there with you man. its been 5-6 months since break up for me.

 

I had a few setbacks here and there but havent heard from her in a few months. I thought I would be over her completely by now but shes still in my head. Those moments where its raining and im sitting in my room with nothing to do, she use to always be with me so we would be bored together and always entertain each other. I feel as though I miss her now more than I ever did.

 

Something ive been told is that we miss the relationship, we miss what we had. We were super comfortable with them in certain situations but its not actually the person we miss, its the situation. I get upset every now and then because i think about how i was never ever lonely and now I have big moments of loneliness. I believe I wont truly move on and forget about my ex until i find somebody else. You can heal and do everything you can but until you realize that theres more fish in the sea, she will always feel like the one.

 

Yeah i know theres more girls out there for me but I have not yet seen someone thats able to fill that spot she once filled. I guess just continue what we are doing, battle through each day and eventually you will turn someones head who will make you completely forget about your ex. congrats on the job btw mate its good to see people doing better after bad break ups. ive only just recently got my life back on track. had a few bad months after my break up. Hang in there mate

[learnbyliving]

I get you totally. I often feel the most desperate and lonely after a long, hard day at work … nobody there anymore wondering when I'll be done, make sure I get home safe at night.

 

I used to tell an ex of mine that the only thing keeping me going at work was coming home to him. Even when we were together happily, he told me he'd be there for support but I can't rely on anyone that much. I think of that often.