New military member and household financial issues

[Els]

I suggested she give him ONE month . . . July (since she posted in June) to actively look for a job. It's unlikely that he will get a new job in 30 days but if he's making a real effort to find one & contribute then fine. If not, she can reevaluate in August. What is so mollycoddling about that?

 

Not to mention that he isn't even being supported by her - they're each contributing $1000 whereas her employer is providing accommodation, which seems extremely fair due to the need for BOTH of them to relocate.

 

IMO people like Lois are extrapolating way too much.

[OldRover]

I've done a LDR for a lot longer than that - was certainly stressful and pretty horrible, but still doable.

 

That being said, I agree that the best solution in the OP's case is for her to be more flexible about their financial arrangements. All I'm saying is, IF she absolutely cannot flex re: 50/50 finances, then she has to understand that she is practically forcing a LDR upon herself. It isn't fair to her partner to expect him to move with her while being so inflexible about financial contributions.

 

I would totally agree... but "for me", I might consider separation or divorce a better option that a LDR. The 50/50 thing sucks and is totally not fair.