BigB Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 So, I decided to bite the bullet and throw a few profiles on some sites. Yahoo, and americansingles. I went through every photo I have of myself, all 10 or so of them , and they all suck. I hate having my picture taken, and it also seems like most of them were taken on days when I forgot to shave. I'm not looking at the camera, or it's an old photo and I'm 50lbs heavier than I am now.. So, I think I'm going to have to try and take some decent photo's tomorrow with my mom's digital. She wanted to take some today, but I was already wearing my lame Security uniform, and I look pretty dorky in it. What kind of pictures should I take? Other than a head shot, and maybe one that show's the rest of me, I'm lost. Sit with the dog? outside? inside? smile? make a face? take my shirt off and try to flex my beer belly? thanks, BigB Link to post Share on other sites
magda Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 The most important thing is to smile and look natural. I personally am turned off by the shirtless pics, but I am not into the "macho" type of guy. Always like a nice looking, natural smile, and the rest (inside, outside, with dog, etc) isn't so important. Link to post Share on other sites
whichwayisup Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Do as many different ones as you can. Fun, happy, silly, laughing and stuff like that. One will just jump out at you and that's the one you go with. Try not to feel nervous. Don't THINK about it too much while you're having your picture taken. Just relax and go with the flow. You're a good guy and I'm sure some woman will snatch you up in no time! Link to post Share on other sites
HoldOn Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 outside! People look much better in sunlight. Picture with dog sounds good too. And only smiling. Link to post Share on other sites
KissMyTiara Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Take whatever pictures, but then make sure to post the ones that look the most like you...nothing ridiculously complementary. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by magda I personally am turned off by the shirtless pics, but I am not into the "macho" type of guy. that was a joke, I look terrible with my shirt off. Unless there are some girls out there that like man-boobs and stretch marks. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 Ok, I was thinking outside as the light usually looks better. There's a nice green bush in the front yard at my moms that might make a good background. My mom loves to take pictures of me with the dog, and I've got some ok ones, but I always seem to be lounging on the couch playing video games so I'm never looking at the camera, or my shirts riding up or something. I've got a few random ones from a camping trip that looks decent, but don't show my face all that great, maybe I'll throw them in on the sites that allow a few extra pics. My mom has NO IDEA why's she taking these pics, I just mentioned that we don't seem to have any decent photo's of me, she started fighting with me about how I always avoid that camera, so I said "all right I'll let you take some" sneaky, sneaky... bah! , this whole thing makes me nervous as hell. *goes outside to chain smoke* Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Go to a professional photographer! I know it costs money but it pays out. Statistics show that people with professional pics get more attention. And find some photographer who loves his job and has an eye for it. Don't take a passport kinda pic. Smile and look natural. Put a few pics on your profile. Good luck and gives us the scoop, boy! Link to post Share on other sites
KissMyTiara Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Only use professional pictures if you're NOT in LA/OC, otherwise you're going to look like a starving actor/model who's consumed by their appearance. I've done the online dating thing, and I honestly have skipped over the professional pictures, especially if they look like headshots, because those guys tend to be more self-absorbed and into physical beauty...at least in this part of the country (I am sure it's different in other places!). Just make your pictures reflect your personality - show yourself laughing, with friends, with family, with your pet, having a good time, smiling, etc. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 professional pics huh? I don't think I've ever had a professional picture taken other than the ones they do at school for yearbook. I'd be afraid they would make me look desperate or too into my appearance or something... I also wouldn't want to make myself look tooo good (if that's possible) and then disappoint.. I'll let my mom take a few, and see how they turn out. I've been browsing some profiles tonight, and wow, some people have really bad pictures. It's like they went: "hmm.. I think I stick my webcam up under my nose in the dark, that'll look great" RP, you guys will definitely get the scoop, assuming there is any scoop. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 this is off topic, but hey, it's my topic! what do you guys think of what I put in my profile? I suck at writing this kinda stuff. "I'm kinda shy at first, but once I warm up I become more outgoing. I'm a funny, easy going, friendly, honest, affectionate guy, who enjoys having a good time. I'm a vegetarian. I love camping, animals (especially dogs), weird movies, video games, the beach, kayaking, and spending time with my family and friends. I'm told my best features are my blue eyes, and my big shoulders. I’m big and strong on the outside, but soft and warm on the inside (I still cry at sad movies). I work as a Security Officer in Petaluma, CA. I'm planning to go into Law Enforcement. I'm shy around girls, and I work evenings/weekends so I though this might be a good way to meet new people. I'm looking for a cute, smart, funny, girl who interested in a possible long term relationship. Someone who likes to have a good time, likes to sit at home and talk, snuggle up on the couch and watch a movie, go for a walk on the beach, or go out to a party. I believe in being friends first. " if that's not internet courage, I don't know what is.... Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 I like it - you sound like a nice, warm guy. Props, too, to 'fessing up to the job and the ambitions. Truth is always best Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme I like it - you sound like a nice, warm guy. Props, too, to 'fessing up to the job and the ambitions. Truth is always best thanks, I almost didn't put in the job part, I know some people are going to go "ewww, rent-a-cop, wannabe cop" but then I figured, I'm cool with my crappy job, I like it way more than my old job that paid twice as much, and if a girl can't see past that I probably don't want to date her. I'm a slacker and I'm not afraid to admit it. plus I know that dating a cop comes with challenges, (long hours, working holiday, danger, etc.) and that some girls aren't into that. Link to post Share on other sites
simon_uk Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 you seem like a cool guy to me and Im a dude! your avatar is kinda cool, shows you have a cheeky side to you, if that is you and your descripton sounds great too! Maybe get your mom to take another pic similar to you avi? and you are right, if a chic rejects you because of your job, then you dont want her anyway man, hey at least you have a job right and whats wrong with what you do anyhow? Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 A natural smile, but show your teeth! And make it look like you're looking into their eyes. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted May 2, 2005 Author Share Posted May 2, 2005 Originally posted by simon_uk you seem like a cool guy to me and Im a dude! your avatar is kinda cool, shows you have a cheeky side to you, if that is you and your descripton sounds great too! Maybe get your mom to take another pic similar to you avi? and you are right, if a chic rejects you because of your job, then you dont want her anyway man, hey at least you have a job right and whats wrong with what you do anyhow? thanks, I'm surprised people like that avi pic, I took that myself using my camera phone and a mirror at like 4am... I guess I just made a good face. what's wrong with what I do? nothing IMO, but security officer's have a bit of a stereotype attached to them, that were lazy, that we're all failed cops, etc. People call us rent-a-cops, flashlight cops, chair warmers, etc. I took a bunch of pictures with my mom today, looks like they came out pretty good, I'm going to play around and see which ones I like best. thanks for the help folks. Link to post Share on other sites
RecordProducer Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Actually professional photos show your personality much better than amateur. In amateur pics you only see shapes, in the professional you see the expression of the face, the look in the eyes, etc. They won't make you look more handsome, but more real and the quality of the pics will attract more people to talk to you. After all, you want to catch them on your personality, right? Don't ever be ashamed of your job! Link to post Share on other sites
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 That is a great pic! (The outdoors one with the hat) You look very genuine. Link to post Share on other sites
Author BigB Posted May 4, 2005 Author Share Posted May 4, 2005 Glad you guys like the new avi pic, it's a zoomed in chop of one of the pictures I took, and used. It's a much bigger picture, of me leaning on my truck. I also used a head shot, with a bit of a smile, I tried a few smiling so I showed teeth, but they didn't look very good. I also threw in one of my laying on a rock at the beach that my mom took on a camping trip last fall, and one of me and my sister on my old motorcycle. thanks for the tips everyone. Link to post Share on other sites
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