bright_star Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 I joined a singles group that has thousands of members, it also has a branched group that has events where anyone of the members can join and go out places. I went to one, I caught the creator of the groups eye and he messaged me the next day asking if I'd like to get to know him, he has many woman wanting him and that was hard in itself, his ex is also in the group and he tells her not to make me feel uncomfortable. He's pushed aside the girls and made it publicly known we are in a relationship. He also made it known he loves me. All this happened within a few months it went so fast but we're both happy.. well... It's a facebook group and when we first got involved he stopped posting and flirting, it actually had a huge impact on his groups he put so much effort into because the girls were leaving knowing he was in a relationship. Everyone was shocked they said they never thought he would get into one, hes always kept them at bay because he wasn't interested in them. The girls were jealous and would inbox him and leave I even had one come to me because she wanted him, however, knowing how it was affecting his group I said don't stop posting you may flirt with them as long as you know where we stand. He understood and has been really respectful. He shows me his posts, comments and even inboxes all the time. Recently he put up that he was single as a joke, he still has a profile pic of us together and it says we are in a relationship. Everyone come running to him including the ones that wanted him, and he removed it, he told me he did it. I was really hurt. I know he's jealous and doesn't want me to end up with anyone in the group, I've told him that won't happen and to stop worrying. One girl left because she was hurt he got into a relationship but then she came back, as soon as she did he was openly chatting/teasing her but excessively and flat out it bothered me.. there's my insecurity. He also knows another that left but not for that reason much earlier on. she has a lot of kids and he wasn't interested but he's been calling her back into the group all the time so I questioned was there anything between him and her at any stage he said no, I was attracted to her but she has 5 kids to 4 different fathers and that put me off they're just friends. A really good looking girl just joined the group, he likes the good looking girls introductions and then welcomes them, one girl said she was looking for an aussie, he put up what's wrong with a kiwi? he's from NZ. Boy was I pissed, I felt like he was trying to convince her about him. I feel like I nag him and shouldn't have to. I'm finding this impossible to deal with. We hate cheaters both of us have been hurt and he's open and honest..Am I just incredibly insecure and jealous? I'm so sorry for the long post but I'm trying so hard to save my relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Photofinish Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 Oh.... god.. How old are you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author bright_star Posted July 2, 2015 Author Share Posted July 2, 2015 Seriously?? I come here for some decent helpful advice and that's the best you've got? Smh! Link to post Share on other sites
wizer Posted July 2, 2015 Share Posted July 2, 2015 Lots of unneeded drama. Recognize it, and eliminate it. Link to post Share on other sites
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