bluebear2364 Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 I had an argument with a good friend of mine about 6 weeks ago. We haven't talked to each other since, since our college had a 4 week break in the middle and we went back home. Now that a new term has started... I IMed "John" last night. Apparently, he's still being nice to me and all. But when I asked if he wanted to grab food someday, he was kinda reluctant. He said he didn't want any more "drama" in his life. All I wanted was a meal, just to catch up and all. I don't want to talk about the argument we had, I just want to move on. Yeah, I know my fellow guys here are saying that if it's a small 'tiff, guys will be fine after a while. But evidently, he's not. But I think John's just trying to avoid the issue, he doesn't want to be in a situation where he's faced with the issue again. I must admit, I'm the emotional kinda guy. I do want to talk about it, but I also know if he's not willing to listen, I can't do anything about it. So what should I do? Should I go up to his place, knock on his door, see how he's doing, and trying to talk it out? Or should I just let it go? I do think he's trying to avoid the issue, so if I go up there, he's faced with it. A lot of my friends, and a lot of people online have told me to let it go. I'm near there, but not there yet. Hehe... like Nicole Kidman in "The Interpreter," I believe in the power of words. No, but seriously, I do think that I owe it to any friendship--including my friendship with John--to try to work things out. But if you all tell me I should just drop it, I will. I will still don't want to, but I'll make myself, if that's the only way to make things better. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Best to back off for now. Working things out is a great idea, but not if one party isn't interested in doing so. At this point, what you see as 'trying to work it out' will be seen by him as 'unwelcome attention'. Link to post Share on other sites
Marshbear Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 I agree with LB's assessment. Link to post Share on other sites
amerikajin Posted May 2, 2005 Share Posted May 2, 2005 Sorry, you're being too vague. What was the argument about? What was said? What was the tone of voice? Details, man. Link to post Share on other sites
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