I never get compliments from other people

[acm123]

Hi all, I've been reading here for years, but created an account just to ask this question. I'm embarrassed to even ask because I think it makes me sound vain and self-conscious, but it's really starting to bother me: Aside from my husband, I NEVER get compliments or positive feedback on my appearance. I've always kind of noticed that other people around me get more compliments than I do, but it became really apparent when I got married 2 weeks ago and pictures from the wedding were posted on social media. Some of the photos got a ton of comments from people commenting "You look so beautiful, Jane" or "Looking fabulous, Mary!" I got lots of comments along the lines of "Congratulations" and "Happy for you," but not a single comment on my appearance.

And, yes, I realize this post comes across as off-putting and makes me sound shallow, but I can't help but be hurt by this and I'm really kind of puzzled by it all. In my social circle, women and men alike regularly make casual comments to each other such as "You're looking amazing! Love that shirt/haircut/etc," so I know it's actually pretty common for people besides me. And yes, I do compliment other people all the time.

I asked my husband about it, and he seems just as confused as me. He asked me "Are you sure you aren't getting compliments and just forgetting about them?" but I know that's not the case. I asked him if he could think of anyone who said I looked pretty on our wedding day (besides him,) and he said he couldn't remember a specific compliment but that the day was such a blur he couldn't remember much at all (which is totally understandable.) I asked if maybe I'm giving off an awkward vibe and he said no, not at all.

Does anyone have any thoughts/theories about this? Or has this happened to anyone else before? Possibly I'm just so "average" that there isn't really anything about me that stands out to other people?

[jen1447]

No idea really but at least your husband compliments you.