Author Male Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 I'm 5'11" and I hate to break it to you, but this height thing is only online. Once you log out of here and step into the real world ugly is ugly and cute is cute, unless you're like 5'2" or something out of the ordinary, I don't see a whole lot of gals turning down cute guys cause they're only 3" taller than they're. Edit: Damn, I just put a picture up, it's been 5 mins and a big girl already messaged me. I agree its more common online. But I've been privy to it in person many times as well. Not directed at me, but I've actually been with a group at bars, and one of the women tells her single friend "Hey Tracy, how about that guy playing pool, he looks cute" and Tracy replies "Yea, he is, but I wish he was taller". Tracy was only 5'4 and that guy had to be at least 5'10. I've seen situations like that over and over.
Author Male Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Ok so we are transitioning from bashing women to bashing LA? Edit: most the guys I know, here in LA, are not too concerned with boob size. They are more in to butts. We're big on butts! Besides, bigger boobs won't help in keeping women under the desired weight threshold. JK I heard a rumor on here that bigger boobs = more milk for her babies. 1
Author Male Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Some of the ladies I work with are in their 50's but they are gorgeous. I'm secretly hoping I get to meet some of their daughters, because those genes are fantastic. Superficial much? You might as well require women to bring a pic of their mother with them, so you can judge whether or not your potential gf will still meet your unrealistic standards in 30 years.
autumnnight Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Some of the ladies I work with are in their 50's but they are gorgeous. I'm secretly hoping I get to meet some of their daughters, because those genes are fantastic. Awww, I didn't know you worked in my office lol My girl is way more beautiful than I ever thought about being. But you'd have to pass my rigorous screening process hahahahahahaha
Keenly Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Superficial much? You might as well require women to bring a pic of their mother with them, so you can judge whether or not your potential gf will still meet your unrealistic standards in 30 years. Haha, dude, you have no idea who I am or what I am about.
xxoo Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 That's the worst part about it. I don't think it's that they're not attracted, it's cause the guys just aren't good enough I think attraction is related to how we feel in someone's presence. So maybe it is that she/he doesn't feel "good enough" in their presence. Around someone else, they feel really great. 1
Author Male Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Haha, dude, you have no idea who I am or what I am about. You've shown us plenty already just with your comments.
Pillow Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 As a 5'4 woman, I would prefer at least 5'10 in height. 6ft is very tall after measuring myself against my guy friends. I would never say 6ft even though I assume this is normal for Europeans. 5'10 is a good noticeable difference between me and my partner. I've went on dates with guys who were 5'5 and such, and it never worked. I am more viscerally sexually attracted to tall men. Tall men carry weight better. They wear jeans better. And they feel more masculine. They take up more space, which signals masculinity for me for some reason. Their legs are wider when they sit a part. Their feet will probably always touch the ground on just about any seat or car. Their heads will touch the ceiling in places where you (as a woman) will appear normal sized. They will always reach the highest cabinet for you. It's very small differences that make them more sexy to you. Every woman around the world wants a tall man if she can get them. Tall men don't have preferences for height so you'll see all sorts of stubby women walking hand in hand with giants like its perfectly normal. Basketball players and other athletes date/marry short women.
Keenly Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 You've shown us plenty already just with your comments. Whatever you say there, sport.
Tribble Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Good gracious, what a long thread haha. Height is just like every other preference. It's not about choosing heels over a guy. I love my heels and I wouldn't give them up. Why should I? I wouldn't change anything else about the way I dress for a guy, why heels? My friend and her bf are a very similar height and he doesn't like it when she wears heels and he has made that known. I'd hate to feel that way. I like wearing heels but I wouldn't want to make my OH feel uncomfortable either. It's hardly an issue for me anyway, I'm just shy of 5'3 so it'd rarely be an issue. But I'm attracted to tall guys. I've been the person saying oh he's attractive, shame he isn't a bit taller before. That doesn't mean I don't find shorter guys attractive, or I wouldn't give them a chance, it's just a preference and I'm certainly not going to apologise for it, I can't actual change what I like. My bf is 6'2 and I've dated taller. I like the way I feel when I'm with them. I feel petite and protected. It's silly as I'm an independent woman who hardly needs protecting, it's just an instinctual thing. That doesn't mean I'd discount him if he was shorter, he offers me much more than his height, it's just nice. It's not even the thing that attracted me to him. Height is the same as any other preference: build, appearance, ethnicity etc. As for OLD, its a moving feast of options. Why not have a height preference? You don't owe these people anything or have to explain what you like and why. Their personality isn't there online, you have to rely on the physical aspects that attract you initially. It's different to being attracted in real life.
Toodaloo Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Say a woman is 5'6....and she loves wearing her 3 inch heels. But she meets an amazing guy that is 5'8. How many women would not even consider him even though he is taller than her when she doesnt wear her heels? How serious can a woman really be about finding a great guy if she cares more about her shoes than a him? Simple answer is that they are shallow. Do you want to date shallow women? Turns out a whole heap of other men don't either that is why there are so many like this on a dating site. So move on and find the women on there who don't put such stipulations in their profiles. It really is that simple. The same way that I move on when I see a guy is married and advertising for an affair partner or a guy that has written a profile that sounds narcissistic... you just move on and stop worrying about what random strangers think. I am only 5ft 5 (my family and I have had spirit levels etc out to check and prove this). My preference is taller because I am used to tall men. I also appear much taller than I actually am. Most people think I am 5ft 7 or 8... Height is deceptive. Some shorter guys appear much taller than some tall guys.
autumnnight Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Simple answer is that they are shallow. Do you want to date shallow women? Turns out a whole heap of other men don't either that is why there are so many like this on a dating site. So move on and find the women on there who don't put such stipulations in their profiles. It really is that simple. The same way that I move on when I see a guy is married and advertising for an affair partner or a guy that has written a profile that sounds narcissistic... you just move on and stop worrying about what random strangers think. I am only 5ft 5 (my family and I have had spirit levels etc out to check and prove this). My preference is taller because I am used to tall men. I also appear much taller than I actually am. Most people think I am 5ft 7 or 8... Height is deceptive. Some shorter guys appear much taller than some tall guys. Or...orr..and bear with me now... Maybe they guy needs to get over it when she occasionally wears heels and is slightly taller than he is. 1
S_A Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 (edited) Some of the ladies I work with are in their 50's but they are gorgeous. I thought my 12th grade history teacher in high school, who was in her 50's, was gorgeous. It's funny because sometimes she'd go off on a tangent and sort of suggest how her luck with men sucked. Yeah... She was single... I agree with this 100%. Even if I were 6'6, I would ignore those women. There are plenty of good women out there. No need to waste your time wondering why the crappy ones are so shallow. I dunno man... I've never ignored women with height requirements and I'd say it's worked out great so far. Edited July 8, 2015 by S_A
Toodaloo Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Or...orr..and bear with me now... Maybe they guy needs to get over it when she occasionally wears heels and is slightly taller than he is. Oh so true! I don't know why people get so het up over something that can't be changed. If its that bad bung on your cubans! On a side note one of my bosses is only 5ft1... the rest of the people I work with consider 6ft 2 short... yes they are all very tall... The one who gets the most female attention when they all go out... yep its the short one because despite the fact he is short with a bald head he is just a frigging amazing bloke.
Author Male Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 It's hardly an issue for me anyway, I'm just shy of 5'3 so it'd rarely be an issue. But I'm attracted to tall guys. I've been the person saying oh he's attractive, shame he isn't a bit taller before. That doesn't mean I don't find shorter guys attractive, or I wouldn't give them a chance My bf is 6'2 and I've dated taller. I like the way I feel when I'm with them. I feel petite and protected. It's silly as I'm an independent woman who hardly needs protecting, it's just an instinctual thing. Those comments above are a complete whirlwind of contradiction and double standard. And the thing is, you and many other women dont even realize it. I am not pointing this out to bash you, I am pointing it out to bring it to light. Contradiction #1 - You first say you are 5'3, so your height with heels would hardly be an issue. Yet you prefer tall guys anyways Contradiction #2 - You say that you would give short guys a chance, yet you give your own personal account of passing on an attractive shorter guy admitting you wish he was taller. Contradiction #3 - You state that in your mind you see yourself as an independent woman, yet you seek out taller men to feed your insecurity of needing to feel more petite and secure???? All of that above is exactly how the many many women think on a daily basis. They dont even realize how distorted their thoughts are, and how it sounds when you actually put it down on paper and dissect it. Again, I am not doing this to crucify Tribble, I am simply using her post as an example for how her and women like her see reality through their eyes. Theres absolutely no reason why she cant be happy with a great guy that is 5-7 through 5'10, but "in her mind" she cant see that. She "thinks" she needs that taller guy to make her feel petite/protected. I would love to really be able to dig into the psyche of where this comes from. What plants the seed in young girls minds that causes them to think this way? I truly believe its not just a preference for them...its a deep rooted insecurity.
autumnnight Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Those comments above are a complete whirlwind of contradiction and double standard. And the thing is, you and many other women dont even realize it. I am not pointing this out to bash you, I am pointing it out to bring it to light. Contradiction #1 - You first say you are 5'3, so your height with heels would hardly be an issue. Yet you prefer tall guys anyways Contradiction #2 - You say that you would give short guys a chance, yet you give your own personal account of passing on an attractive shorter guy admitting you wish he was taller. Contradiction #3 - You state that in your mind you see yourself as an independent woman, yet you seek out taller men to feed your insecurity of needing to feel more petite and secure???? All of that above is exactly how the many many women think on a daily basis. They dont even realize how distorted their thoughts are, and how it sounds when you actually put it down on paper and dissect it. Again, I am not doing this to crucify Tribble, I am simply using her post as an example for how her and women like her see reality through their eyes. Theres absolutely no reason why she cant be happy with a great guy that is 5-7 through 5'10, but "in her mind" she cant see that. She "thinks" she needs that taller guy to make her feel petite/protected. I would love to really be able to dig into the psyche of where this comes from. What plants the seed in young girls minds that causes them to think this way? I truly believe its not just a preference for them...its a deep rooted insecurity. So what? Seriously, who cares? They are them, you are you...or do you really think women should shift THEIR thinking to accommodate you? 4
Tribble Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Those comments above are a complete whirlwind of contradiction and double standard. And the thing is, you and many other women dont even realize it. I am not pointing this out to bash you, I am pointing it out to bring it to light. Contradiction #1 - You first say you are 5'3, so your height with heels would hardly be an issue. Yet you prefer tall guys anyways Contradiction #2 - You say that you would give short guys a chance, yet you give your own personal account of passing on an attractive shorter guy admitting you wish he was taller. Contradiction #3 - You state that in your mind you see yourself as an independent woman, yet you seek out taller men to feed your insecurity of needing to feel more petite and secure???? All of that above is exactly how the many many women think on a daily basis. They dont even realize how distorted their thoughts are, and how it sounds when you actually put it down on paper and dissect it. Again, I am not doing this to crucify Tribble, I am simply using her post as an example for how her and women like her see reality through their eyes. Theres absolutely no reason why she cant be happy with a great guy that is 5-7 through 5'10, but "in her mind" she cant see that. She "thinks" she needs that taller guy to make her feel petite/protected. I would love to really be able to dig into the psyche of where this comes from. What plants the seed in young girls minds that causes them to think this way? I truly believe its not just a preference for them...its a deep rooted insecurity. Dissect me all you'd like but I don't see the contradictions you're referring to. #1. I said I prefer tall guys. I'm allowed that preference. My point is, I'd be hard pushed to find a guy shorter than me, in heels or out so it's not about them being taller than me. It's about a physical preference I happen to have. #2. I didn't pass up any guy. It was a passing comment about someone me and a friend saw when out. I was taken at the time. If he'd hit on me (and I'd been single), I wouldn't have dismissed him out of hand for being shorter than my preference. #3. So I like feeling that way, what of it? I know I don't need protecting. But I quite like jumping all over my guy and him being able to chuck me around ;-) Just like I prefer a more built guy than a skinny guy. For the same reason. It's not a deal breaker to feel that way. And funnily enough, I've been really interested in short guys. And skinny guys in the past. My preference is not set in stone and is not a deal breaker. It's what I PREFER. I love pizza and pasta but give me the choice, I'd PREFER pasta most days. But some days I'll choose the pizza. I'm certainly not going to dismiss pizza, especially if there isn't any pasta going.
S_A Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Those comments above are a complete whirlwind of contradiction and double standard. And the thing is, you and many other women dont even realize it. I am not pointing this out to bash you, I am pointing it out to bring it to light. Are you trying to convince women that prefer tall guys to like shorter guys? You do realize that you can't convince someone to naturally prefer something they do not naturally prefer. It'd be like trying to convince some of thr guys on here that "only like Asian girls" to like other women. Maybe you are trying to point out contradictions because you feel like some of the women that say they prefer shorter guys are lying just to be nice and to make shorter guys feel better? If this is the case then I can't blame you for trying to grt the truth; a little skepticism is healthy, I guess. But trying to guilt into not liking taller guys isn't going to work. 2
Grumpybutfun Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 The heels aren't the problem...your attitude is the problem. Stop trying to micromanage women based on your insecurities. Good luck, G 2
Author Male Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 (edited) But trying to guilt into not liking taller guys isn't going to work. I dont know how many times I have to say it over and over, but obviously it falls on deaf ears. I could absolutely care less how many women like tall guys. I am not trying to change anyone with this thread. I am simply asking because I am inquisitive and I dont know what drives women to act this way. Its not just a "preference" its more than that. So what? Seriously, who cares? They are them, you are you...or do you really think women should shift THEIR thinking to accommodate you? So just because YOU dont care, that means I'M not allowed to have an interest in this??????? Its a good thing scientist around the world dont listen to people like you when they spend years on their research. Edited July 8, 2015 by Male
autumnnight Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Its not just a "preference" its more than that. Women have TOLD you it is a preference. Calling them liars and looking for some deeper conspiracy is rude and arrogant. Stop it 1
Tribble Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 Its not just a "preference" its more than that. Says who? Are you seriously telling me there is nothing about the female species that you would prefer over something else? Blonde vs brunette? Model like vs curvy? I could start a thread over why the last few guys I dated chose blonde girls over me but what would be the point? They obviously liked them more than me. It could have been because they were blonde or because of something else entirely. You build a picture in your head of your perfect partner. With all of your PREFERENCES in there. But that's fantasy, they don't exist. You (hopefully) will choose a guy without your deal breakers, some of your preferences in there and a few things you thought you'd never go for. That's life. And some of your preferences get chucked out. One of my best friends is dating a guy her height. Before him, she preferred taller guys and never saw herself with someone shorter. Life surprises you and she loves him. Height isn't even an issue. The way you make it sound, no guy under 6' would be dating. But they are. I see them every day.
Author Male Posted July 8, 2015 Author Posted July 8, 2015 Says who? Are you seriously telling me there is nothing about the female species that you would prefer over something else? . Sorry...but you are talking to the wrong guy about that. I base my selection purely off of personality and that spark of interaction. I do not have one premeditated "preference" that I look for. You build a picture in your head of your perfect partner. With all of your PREFERENCES in there. But that's fantasy, they don't exist People actually do that?? I dont understand what the benefit is.
S_A Posted July 8, 2015 Posted July 8, 2015 I am simply asking because I am inquisitive and I dont know what drives women to act this way. I'm going to say the unpopular thing: The human eye likes to be pleased and the extra height looks objectively better. But that's not to say that too much of something isn't bad. If you're seven feet tall, it does not look that good. While this isn't a rule, taller people tend be proportioned better. Not always, that's for sure. Shorter people can sometimes have stockier builds. The eye likes what the eye likes.
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