15Love Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 I want to text him so bad. This is the hardest part....when I get the urge to text him it's almost impossible to overcome. Today I'm coming to LS first. Quick! Please, tell me why it's a bad idea to reach out to someone who is playing with my head? I'm stuck in the fog Link to post Share on other sites
Ariess10 Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 You said it yourself, you know he's playing with your head so why txt?? Write down the txt save it for a day and if you wanna send it after that do it 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Yummm Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 Quite a simple fix that always works for me.. Don't dwell, let the urges and negative thoughts come but put them straight to the BACK of your mind by forcing yourself to be distracted.. Listen to music, post on here, go outside, turn your phone off, ANYTHING to temporarily distract you. Once they are at the back of your head, let them pass, they will and you will feel free and better that you didn't give in to your urge! 2 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 8, 2015 Share Posted July 8, 2015 Email yourself whatever you want to say instead just to get it out. You can't reach out to him if he's playing with your head because that just hurts you & doesn't matter to him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author 15Love Posted July 8, 2015 Author Share Posted July 8, 2015 Thank you for the quick replies! Might be something to this LS thing Ok so that moment passed...but the trouble is I don't have much specifically I want to say. I just want to see what he'll say if I say hi. Sometimes it's fun sometimes he ignores me. It's all very demeaning in its breadcrumby way. But it's something. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 15Love Posted July 8, 2015 Author Share Posted July 8, 2015 you will feel free and better that you didn't give in to your urge! You're right! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BriNyc82 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Fight the urge! Anytime I have felt the urge to email or text it just made me feel worse. I am still feeling ashamed of reaching out in the past and regret it. your feelings are probably still going in waves. Don't do anything rash based on how you are feeling at that moment since you are likely to feel different even in a matter of hours. You said so yourself. You don't have anything to say. You're feeding into the high by instant gratification. If you feel the need to txt him post it here instead 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author 15Love Posted July 12, 2015 Author Share Posted July 12, 2015 So here's the dilima. And it's usually what tips me over the edge because it seems so harmless. What if all I want to say to him is: "Hi" All to see if he'll respond, cause sometimes he doesn't. Which makes me crazy. If he, does that's practically all the high I need. But then...it's not really enough...then I want to see him...and round we go. So yeah. What if it's a harmless "hi"? Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 It's not harmless because you are still hanging on instead of letting go & moving forward. Every time you say Hi you prevent yourself from healing & pick at the scab. You won't ever heal if you keep this up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author 15Love Posted July 12, 2015 Author Share Posted July 12, 2015 It's not harmless because you are still hanging on instead of letting go & moving forward. Every time you say Hi you prevent yourself from healing & pick at the scab. You won't ever heal if you keep this up. You're right 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Reiben17 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 So here's the dilima. And it's usually what tips me over the edge because it seems so harmless. What if all I want to say to him is: "Hi" All to see if he'll respond, cause sometimes he doesn't. Which makes me crazy. If he, does that's practically all the high I need. But then...it's not really enough...then I want to see him...and round we go. So yeah. What if it's a harmless "hi"? Ok so I've just done what u definitely shouldn't... Actually i called him, Even though i loved the concern in his voice, And the way he was pushing me to keep talking to him. Its all instantaneous.... I Felt good then, But as soon as the convo ended, I knew he was just going to feed his curiosity, And throw me off all over again. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 15Love Posted July 12, 2015 Author Share Posted July 12, 2015 Ok so I've just done what u definitely shouldn't... Actually i called him, Even though i loved the concern in his voice, And the way he was pushing me to keep talking to him. Its all instantaneous.... I Felt good then, But as soon as the convo ended, I knew he was just going to feed his curiosity, And throw me off all over again. Oh no! I hope I didn't contribute to your slip! Sometimes I wonder if people's struggle here make people trip. Yes, it always feels good right away. I've narrowed it down to a tangible high. But then the descent begins. Link to post Share on other sites
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