Ending not like I wanted it too but at least I know where I stand now !!

[mixwell]

I think my problem is resolved finally.. So here goes some back info. Together 7 years.. she broke up with me this past october because i moved out of state.. I move back to california and she is going out with someone else already.. I still think theres a chance like an idiot and call her a lot for the next couple months.. So I stop calling and she calls here and there. We talk the end of march and then nothing until about the end of April. The last 4 days we talk a lot. like 2 times a day.. I start thinking she might be feeling different now or whatever so I ask her today.

 

I ask her if she wanted to hang out tomorrow maybe and i get the same old I dont know I did months ago when i used to ask.. So i said I thought you might be diff now but i guess you are still the same.. I say " Is all you still see in us is just friends ?" she says yes.

So at least knowing now that she hasn't changed her feelings i say well i dont think we should be friends then because thats not all I want from you and I am not going to act like I am happy and have that kind of relationship with you. I say if things changed then we could talk but i just said lets go back to not talking because i dont want just a friendship. I then said I had to go and she said ok then i said bye and hung up..

 

Now I am not depressed or anything.. For the most part i am mostly over it I think but I just wanted to check and see if feelings might have changed and they didn't. So I am just going on how I was before and I almost feel stupid for breaking the NC but at least I know that all she is interested in is a friend in me and I refuse that..

 

So now I am back to where I was and I will focus more on what I have been in the time I have been doing NC with her..

 

Just wanted to update you all.. If there are any updates (which I doubt) I will keep you posted..

 

Take care everyone,

 

Peace

[Marshbear]

Good for you. You made the chioce that was right for you and she can understand your position. You needed to move on and she knows it. It won't be easy but you will find that love you need in someone who feels as you do.

 

Good Luck...

[johan]

I haven't read all your posts. But I think it's damn weird how she can be interested enough to talk to you so much, but not interested enough to actually be with you. I've heard of people trying this, always torturing the dumpee, and it's never clear to me why. Maybe it's loneliness, and her life isn't that great. So she needs some kind of connection. Good to know you don't feel bad about it though.

[mixwell]

Well Johan the contact started when my mom left a note on her door at her house. My ex called and was mad because she thought the letter was mean or whatever. That was about 1 1/2 weeks ago. Then like an idiot I put her as a reference for a job and I txted her and let her know.. So basically I initiated the contact.. She called me about it and we talked. I guess the lady called but my ex missed it and so she called back and the lady wasnt there. So she calls me back to tell me that.

 

She then calls me the next day and said she talked to the lady and blah blah.. So we talked about whats been going on in each others life for a while This was friday april 29 . Then my b day was this sat (april 30) and she didn't even call about it, but had hinted in a joking way about it but she didnt actually say happy bday or anything the day before my bday. So kind of hurt I txt her at about 3am sunday morning and said " thanks for letting me know you don't give a shiz about me. I knew it was stupid to get back in contact with you. Back to reality Peace" Thats what it said . She called about 5 minutes later and said blah blah sorry and this and that and we talked for about 30 mins.

 

I asked her if she still felt the same way about us and she said I dont know I haven't even seen you in like 2 months. I said basicially well you didnt call or anything and she was like I was going to call you a couple times but I didn't. So i was like whatever.. So then last night I txt her saying "are you busy?" she sents a text today at like 3pm with some joke picture txt like the humor we used to have. So I call her after work and talk to her for about 20 mins and the convo was basically chit chat and then I asked what I did in my first post on this thread and thats what the convo was about.

 

So by then like I said when she said she only say us as friends still i just said I cant do that and if things change then we can talk.. So thats about it.. So here is an in depth on how the contact got initiated this month. Other than that like I said I talked to her the end of march and we haven't hung out since the beginning of Feb.. btw way I am 22 and she is 21..

 

So I don't know if this in depth contact initation gives a different perspective but yea..

 

Anyways im out..

 

peace