He keeps cancelling plans/dates...now what?!

[katiegrl]

shortee, have you ever been with a guy who is really into you? I am assuming you have?

 

So you know how men treat women they are really into right?

 

That they don't continue to break dates with them .... and actually WANT and desire to spend time with them? Take them out, make them smile.

 

There is no way a man who is into you could wait WEEKS before spending time with you. Outside of work. No freaking way. Not if he can help it.

 

My guess is he is dating someone else he IS really into and you are on the backburner in case that one doesn't work out. He is stringing you along and you are allowing it.

 

Please stop allowing it and call it a day.

 

Again I am sorry. G'luck.

[Lois_Griffin]

What am I supposed to do when I see him at work? Ignore him at work? I don't think that would work. Yes he did cancel again. He did call me to explain that he wanted to go out with me and was looking forward to it, but his father ended up in the hospital. He did reschedule with me again for next Friday. Yet I have had no contact with him since he cancelled. I really would like to know what is going on with him, so I can just move on without any drama at work.

THAT'S drama, asking him what's going on with him. And 'move on' from WHAT? There's nothing to 'move on' from.

 

You know how he operates. This isn't your first rodeo with him. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over and expecting DIFFERENT results. That's what you're doing - expecting different results from someone whose already SHOWED you again and again and again how little he respects you.

 

More importantly, the fact that YOU continually allow this disrespectful nonsense sends him the message that you have no respect or regard for yourself.

[xcupid]

According to him, his dad has diabetes and had a medical emergency. So he stayed with him overnight. IDK if there is a way to really question that. I did see him the next day and asked him about it. What am I supposed to say "F your dad"?

 

I just feel stuck in limbo and I want to move forward, either with or without him. I just want to know either way if he wants to continue to date. If not, then I'll move on no drama. I just want to find a way to say something so that I can move past this drama.

 

You saw him the next day - and he didn't bring up anything about a date or apologizing for having to cancel, right? What does that tell you?

 

 

It seems to me that you're stuck in limbo because you haven't accepted that he isn't into you. You're holding onto the *hope* that he is interested in you.

 

 

You don't have to say anything to him. You move on and date other guys. If he approaches you then you tell him no thanks because this behavior will be repeated and he will string you along and leave you wondering all the time. Good luck.