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MissingHerBad

Ive moved my posts to here due to some recent changes. Its been a while since I broke up with my girlfriend. Now I am still crazy in love with her after 8 months and would do anything to be with her. You guys will probably tare me apart for this but recently I called her after not talking to her on the phone since this happened...The conversation went 4 hours before I finally just had to leave. She told me she still loved me and she said that she crys about it all the time. The day after she called me and I started probing. I found out she has a boyfriend and loves him. Then I said I probably shouldnt talk to her then but she didnt want that. Shes said she is confused. When hanging up she also noted that she had missed me. Side Note: We had a crazy love and it was very deep but my work got carried away with me and eventually she broke up with me.

 

After talking to her a being incredibly excited I had my flower lady whip up a crazy boquet of rose. I know chances are slim right now seeing as she has a boyfriend but she didnt indicate that maybe in the future. So Im gonna take the flowers down there tonight....maybe just leave them at the door or something unless someone on here can guide be, rip on me or talk me out of this...lol ANYONE?

 

This girl is a hopeless romantic and thats all she wants from life. <- Incase you need to know

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She has a BF and is In Love with him :confused:

 

Okay... Well the only thing I can think of to say here is this...

 

You said your EXGF is a hopeless romantic right?

AND you said she's with someone else and Loves him...

 

Possible your EX is in love with the idea of being in love?

 

While romance is great... that can't be all there is in life or in the relationship because that isn't real... so with that said and from you've said... if your EX is a romance *Junkie* are you gonna be able to keep that up for her IF the 2 of you get back together... :confused:

 

Send me the flowers instead :p:laugh:

 

Seriously... hope it works out the way you want it too :)

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Marshbear

All I will say is that second time around relationships usually doesn't work out. Maybe you will be the exception!!!

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Merin Thats dope! Your always on the ball. Youve heard my story. And to an extent I wonder if I could keep it up but I know I can. I would move mountains for this girl. Ive lost sleep over this for the past 250 days (or something like that). Im really not desperate and have no problems getting a girls (usually...lol) but none of that matters to me anymore. Maybe Im just kidding myself, I hope I dont make a fool of myself. However I did tell her how I felt and she didnt say anything negative except that she missed me and still "had love for" me.

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Originally posted by MissingHerBad

Merin Thats dope! Your always on the ball. Youve heard my story. And to an extent I wonder if I could keep it up but I know I can. I would move mountains for this girl. Ive lost sleep over this for the past 250 days (or something like that). Im really not desperate and have no problems getting a girls (usually...lol) but none of that matters to me anymore. Maybe Im just kidding myself, I hope I dont make a fool of myself. However I did tell her how I felt and she didnt say anything negative except that she missed me and still "had love for" me.

 

LOL Love makes everyone act a Fool from time to time.. and for real thats what sometimes makes it good :laugh:

 

If you feel like this is something you need to do no matter the outcome to either get back with her or be able to walk away without regret of what you could've said and didn't or should've done but didn't then I say do what you need to do to be okay with things...

 

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IF for any reason it doesn't work out.... then the next time you're feeling all crazy and need to send flowers... send them to Merin care of LS ;):p:laugh:

 

Let me know how it goes :)

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Send me the flowers instead :p:laugh:

 

Hey sweetie I'll send you flowers since I know you're a kind & special person and a giver of great advice. ;)

 

 

 

Missingherbad,

 

hope it all works out the way you want it to. As for 2nd chances, yeah they usually dont work out simply because people go inot the 2nd go around acting the exact same rather than learning from what caused the initial breakup and being better people (ie more understanding & open) from it.

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MissingHerBad

You should see these flowers...There a crazy boquet of 3 dozen roses...It will literally take up her door way. Do you have a large doorway....LOL

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Wow....so that's how long it takes for EX to come around. I just got my heart broken as well, and wish that I can turn back the clock. I hope he forgives me soon and come knocking on my door with flowers. I miss my man, and it's hard to not say it.

Good Luck let us know how it goes...If it is meant to be she will come around.

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Originally posted by Weird

Hey sweetie I'll send you flowers since I know you're a kind & special person and a giver of great advice. ;)

 

Awe.. Thanks :)

 

MHB.. Damn! Mad props to you for going all out like that!

I hope things go how you would want them and honestly IMO it seems this is coming from your heart here.. so regardless of the outcome you did what you need to be okay...

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MissingHerBad

It truly is. Ive lived a pretty crazy life so far and all that sticks out since any of this happened is her. I hope one day it works out but until then Im just looking for ways to deal with this. Part of me feels I havent done enough...

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K, the flowers were delivered. I gave them to a bunch of my girlfriends to drop off. They said that they had never seen such a gesture. They said it was really nice. So now I guess I just play the waiting game which for me may suck seeing as how I mioght be waiting forever ... lol.

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Originally posted by MissingHerBad

K, the flowers were delivered. I gave them to a bunch of my girlfriends to drop off. They said that they had never seen such a gesture. They said it was really nice. So now I guess I just play the waiting game which for me may suck seeing as how I mioght be waiting forever ... lol.

 

I'm sure you'll get some kind of a response... *Merin crosses her fingers it's the response you're looking for*

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MissingHerBad

Your so damn sweet! Maybe I should be sending you the flower. BTW I know Ill get a response and I know that for the most part it wont be bad. It feels kinda like a forbidden love.

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Originally posted by MissingHerBad

Your so damn sweet! Maybe I should be sending you the flower.

 

:love:

 

Hey! Wait a minute! Did you say FloweR? I thought you said Flower'S? :confused:

 

:laugh: Thats Merin.. care of LS... :p

 

I'm sure your EX is a very happy girl about now;)

Can't wait to hear what happens!

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I think you need to be cautious. Although, she still might have feelings for you- no matter how strong- there's still the boyfriend factor. Honestly speaking, you shouldn't invest more feelings into her. She needs to make a decision soon. Not to put pressure on her but it's not fair for you or for the boyfriend. I suggest you let her know this. I would hate for her to play you out and in the end you're hurt. Hope she really picks you-- let us know how it goes.

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No doubt, I agree. To be perfectly honest Im not sure I expect much from this. Yes it is a nice gesture and yes she may still have feelings for me but she does have a boyfriend. The same guy probably that rescued her from me :(

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Well, its been two days now since they were delivered. She hasnt called or emailed. I hope I didnt confuse her or stress her out. Anyways I guess I really do need to move on now. Ill just have to move my posts back to coping.

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Originally posted by MissingHerBad

Well, its been two days now since they were delivered. She hasnt called or emailed. I hope I didnt confuse her or stress her out. Anyways I guess I really do need to move on now. Ill just have to move my posts back to coping.

 

Damn... I'm sorry :(

 

Like I said before... however it worked out at least it would either help you in trying again or help you in letting go... sorry it is the latter... Hang in there.

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This just in...lol. I did get a response from her. She wrote it in a form of email and was very nice. She said she would have called me but she feels extremely spun right now. She also said that the flowers were so beautiful and that it made her feel like someone special. She said shes having some thinking time and will call me? Is this good? Should I be doing this?

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I gotta tell ya, it seems pretty positive, but be cautious. Man, I'm kinda jealous, I usually consider myself a romantic, but not only was that romantic it was ballsy because you hung yourself in the breeze just asking for a heartbreak. But maybe that was the sentiment she needed. But once again, be very cautious and go SLOW.

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Our stories are a lot alike. I too was too consumed with work and she broke up with me, and we too had a crazy love and it was awesome. I haven't been apart from her for as long as you have, but sadly, your story gives me a new burst of hope. That might not be a good thing. But until that day, NC baby, NC.

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With hope comes pain. My only question is and Im sure you can relate...If our work got us caught up before, will it happen again? If you guys had that crazy love I feel theres always hope. But your right I will be cautious, I still have my heart on the line :{)

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I was a florist at my last job and recently with your post was motivated to send my ex some flowers. I always wish a guy would send me flowers at my job. Trust me all girls would love it, and I'm glad she did. Yes it was last week and no I didn't get a thank you but just that he needs time to think it over kind of phone call. I miss him so much but yeah this time apart thing really freaks me out. I'm constantly wondering what he is doing, eating, talking to and if he's thinking about me. I've sent him a "English Garden arrangement" it's bright and cheery. It's weird sending flowers to a guy but sometimes when you **** up it's necessary. I'm tempted to send another, but my wallet has a hole from "break up shopping sprees". I got myself gold boots??? WHY???

Heehee good luck dude...

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Gold Boots...hahahha.

 

To tell you the truth my situation isnt much different. She has only sent me an email saying that her heart stopped and that they were beautiful however it has been 2 days and she still hasnt called. I know she needs time to process all this but my question to everybody here is : Because this is my ex from 8 months ago and she has a bf now....She must be thinking to herself, what if I do go back and it blows up in my face? Should I be sending her a brief email letting her know that this isnt something I just dreamed up and that I have thought about this very carefully? How should I go about this? Im determined to get her back my any means possible (of course under the law). Any suggestions or should I just sit on my hands and let her think. OR SHOULD I SEND HER MORE FLOWERS? :)

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