Friskyone4u Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 Dave, You need to reread all the crap she has told you. Unfortunately you, not your wife , are in a "fog". You thread says " Can't trust my Wife" YOU GOT THAT ONE RIGHT!!! The big question is what are you doing to find out anything more than what she tells you. ??? How about getting her phone text history, FB history, putting a VAR in her car. She has given you no reason to trust her. And lastly, her days of going bar hopping with a "friend" who engages her with her old hook up buddies need to come to an abrupt end. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DaisyBug Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I have a feeling the OP was just doing a "drive by" and won't be returning here. Too bad - I'd be curious to know how this turned out. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Try Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Yes, it was a guys house. A friend of her friends who apparently she has hooked up with before. The friend, not my wife. The story that is being presented to me is that they were sleeping in the bed together, my wife and her girlfriend. And apparently the friend went downstairs and started making out with the guy. I am inclined to believe my wife but I am really feeling hurt and have become almost obsessive over it. It's like I have it stuck in my mine she cheated on me, but I actually don't think she did. It is causing lots of issues. I have been checking her phone so much, she got mad and changed the passcode on it, which I sorta don't blame her, but that makes me even more mad. She spent the night in the bed of another man, lied to you about it, and she has the nerve to change her pass code on her phone because she is mad at you for not trusting her? That has cheater written all over it. Sorry but her actions do not pass the smell test. Cheaters usually lie about cheating, and you know that she lied about the night and the other man. News flash: studies show that spouses only catch their cheating spouse in the act of having sex 3% of the time, and that even with evidence cheaters only admit to cheating 7% of the time, with the majority of spouses never even being suspicious of cheating in their marriage. In other words you have more information to confirm cheating than most will ever get. It is causing you "lots of issues" because you know in your gut when something is not right. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I have a feeling the OP was just doing a "drive by" and won't be returning here. Too bad - I'd be curious to know how this turned out. Unless he finds the guts to do it himself his wife will run off with another guy in a few months. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Ninjainpajamas Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 "I can't trust my wife" Then I see no reason for you to be with her...do you really need all the evidence in your face to justify this emotion? Yeah you probably do, ah well...your fall. Link to post Share on other sites
KiwiGal76 Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 Firstly, yes, you have every right to be suspicious. However, if you have access to her 'find my iPhone' wouldn't she disable this if she was regularly cheating? It sounds to me as if she was drunk and had no idea what actually happened, which is also cause for concern. Is her friend married or single? She isn't covering for her is she? Angst situation, I feel for you mate. Link to post Share on other sites
lolablue17 Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 My long long experience points that when people have a lot to hide, their common instinct is to blame the other side about anything they can come up with... For example - When she changes her password, you think that she doesn't want you search her phone. But her main reason for her doing that is to change the subject - She wants you argue about the password issue and not digging too much about the other night, the night that she is so much trying to burry. If she hasn't done anything wrong, she would show some remorse, regrets her actions and appologize about her lies. But she wouldn't so she must have done something wrong. Why do you check her phone? To find out if she's lying? I can tell you straight ahead - Yes, she's lying and will continues to lie. She will also make up any story she thinks will get her out of trouble. So, again - why do you pay so much attention to what she says? Every word she says is a potential lie. Why is it so important to you, what lie exactly is she using today, or tommorow? Link to post Share on other sites
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