829178 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 GF cheated on me. Admitted to cheating (only part of it). Comes over. Apologizes. We go for a walk. She says she wants to be just friends. 30 minutes later, she say she want to be with me. I tell her we need to cool it for a week and see how we feel after our emotions are toned down a bit after the revelations and such. She then begins to force herself on me. I start turning away. She then digresses to kissing my neck and finally forces herself onto my lips. It seemed fake to me. The kissing, the crying, the hugs. WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON!? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 She desperately wants your forgiveness and approval. If you reciprocate it means she's forgiven. If you don't she's either dumped or has more humble pie to eat, neither of which, she wants. How old are you guys? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author 829178 Posted July 10, 2015 Author Share Posted July 10, 2015 She: 23. Me: 28 Actually, she dumped me, then I found out and confronted her. Is this real want for approval/forgiveness? Or fake/for the moment? Does she actually want to be back together or be friends like she said originally? I'm confused. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 She: 23. Me: 28 Actually, she dumped me, then I found out and confronted her. Is this real want for approval/forgiveness? Or fake/for the moment? Does she actually want to be back together or be friends like she said originally? I'm confused. If you want drama, hassle, confusion and basically a general mindf**k then keep asking questions. For a peaceful, hassle-free life, drop everything, move on, ignore go NC and be done with her. Why screw with your own braincells? Have more respect for yourself. Don't you deserve the best? Is she it? (Doubt it, if she's cheated..... don't you?) Link to post Share on other sites
Author 829178 Posted July 10, 2015 Author Share Posted July 10, 2015 I hate to admit you're right. I just want to believe she didn't do it...but all logic defies it...I'm afraid of missing out on something great too I guess or turning this learning experience into something great between us... Does that ever even happen, or once a cheater always a cheater? Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 If you put your finger on a hot radiator, and burned yourself, it doesn't necessarily mean you'll burn yourself on the same radiator again, if you do it again. Not always so. But, why risk it? Link to post Share on other sites
quattrob Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 Its only been a short time since she "dumped" you... you think someone can just change in such a short time? NEVER. Don't ever go back to her.. at least not until she's actually changed if ever.. That however doesnt just happen overnight, it could take literally years. Never stop your life for someone else especially in this case where its out of your control, she may never change. I'd forget this girl, you'll find someone better. Link to post Share on other sites
loveiswar101 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 Hate to say but my wife cheated on me and that was it. Couldn't trust her again. Boom 10 year marriage ended right there. She's looking for forgiveness. Up to you if you give her it. I'd talk to her and suggest take a break for a month or so NC and then revisit it and see what you want first then her. The action she has done speaks louder than the words she will be saying, don't be blind to what has happened. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 GF cheated on me. Admitted to cheating (only part of it). Comes over. Apologizes. We go for a walk. She says she wants to be just friends. 30 minutes later, she say she want to be with me. I tell her we need to cool it for a week and see how we feel after our emotions are toned down a bit after the revelations and such. She then begins to force herself on me. I start turning away. She then digresses to kissing my neck and finally forces herself onto my lips. It seemed fake to me. The kissing, the crying, the hugs. WHAT THE HECK IS GOING ON!? See bolded - she's going back and forth bc she's not sure if she wants you or the guy she cheated with. Do you really want to wait around to see who she 'chooses?' Link to post Share on other sites
SammySammy Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 She wants to have her cake and eat it too. She wants to cheat with the other guy and you to be the sucker who's okay with it. Have some standards and get a backbone. People can decide they want to mistreat you, but you have to decide you're not going to take it. Link to post Share on other sites
dumbass2 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 "If you put your finger on a hot radiator, and burned yourself, it doesn't necessarily mean you'll burn yourself on the same radiator again, if you do it again." This is a great analogy. If you try to pursue this situation right now you're gonna get burned. Emotions are too hot and all over the place right now. It really is best to let things cool down for a month or so after a break up to see things more clearly and think with a cooler head. It is definitely not worth the risk, but sometimes we have to learn the hard way. Bottom line is she cheated on you. I'm not saying people don't make mistakes and truly do feel remorse and that things can't work out over time, but there has to be consequences for her actions. You can't make it so easy for her. If she did really feel bad, then she should be going about this in a more respectful and meaningful full way to win you back. This is really really big deal. She is trying to do it by physically being affectionate because that is the way to a man's heart. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 Honestly just tell her to get lost. Why care if she likes to lay in the bed she made or not (obviously not, but that's not your problem). What a drama queen. Link to post Share on other sites
theredpill Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater, you'll find no long lasting happiness with this girl, as soon as you drop the ball, she'll open her legs for another. How would you feel when children on the scene, or even worse finding out your child isn't even yours. Dodge this bullet, it's gonna hurt but sometime the right things still do. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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