Plaster Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 So yesterday was my exs birthday. I found out that she had gone to Mauritius with this guy that she started seeing after our break up. We are nearly 3 months post break up and I was 5 weeks no contact until last night, where I got angry and unblocked her on fb and sent her a nasty message and threatened him. I sent another this morning explaining that I was angry and didn't mean what I said, it was just that I was confused how she can move on so quick go somewhere like that with him. Now let me get this straight, although I love her and miss her, my life has improved significantly since she left. I don't want to be with her at this stage in life, I'm busy becoming who I need to be, not the boy that ruined one of the best things I had and I'm doing that for me, not her. So why has this effected me so much? Why did it make me so angry? I got a reply from her sayin 'leave me alone please' fair enough, she's on holiday and doesn't want aggro from me. I don't want to speak with her either to be fair. So why if I don't want to speak to her, or have her back, am I so bothered? I've slept with plenty of chicks since the break up so it's not that. Is it because I still love her? It must be that. This sucks. Apart from this set back I've been doing great though! Link to post Share on other sites
loveiswar101 Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 Need to take a step back my friend. In life I don't think there's any reason to threaten anybody...you can be angry but do you want to be that person known for threaten someone, even if not known for it, deep down in yourself your should relise it's not a good trait as a human being. Ok back to it. You just gone from going well to a set back, 3 months isn't a longtime and yes I probably say you still have feelings for her. Congrats on doing the right things to move on, need to really go back to no contact and forget about her. Easier said than done i know but it seems this road with her has come to an end. NC, Heal, then explore life with someone else. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
15Love Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 I don't think its because you love her...I think it's called dog in the manger. You don't want her anymore, but you don't want anyone else wanting her either. Focus in the fact that you don't really want her anymore. Not that it feels bad to have her enjoying herself. Keep going 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Plaster Posted July 10, 2015 Author Share Posted July 10, 2015 Your absolutely correct and I am ashamed of acting like that, hence why I did apologise for being like that. It was a moment of weakness and exactly what I'm trying to get away from as a person, a minor set back nothing more, nothing less. And as for not wanting anyone else to have her, I think that is spot on aswell. It's caused by jealously, yes I'm jealous that she has seemed to find someone that she can go away with (to a honeymoon destination at that as well!) so quickly. But logically I have to look at it as a rebound, as it must be that. To sum up the relationship, I took her for granted and she worshipped the ground I walked on. I got lazy and didn't treat her how I should of so she left.. Then some guy came along and treated her how she wanted me to treat her and that made her happy.. A rebound Yeah? Anyway I'm rambling on here. Absolutely I went straight back into NC and I'm not going to count is as a break as I didn't even want an answer, I just wanted to vent at her. Ah the joys of the roller coaster ride of emotions. For the record is it wrong to want another shot at it with her? Not now, not for a while. I have so much to work on for myself and I need to learn to make myself happy (slowly happening!) but in the future I see myself with her again. If at least rryintrying. Link to post Share on other sites
coryreply Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 Sorry you're going through this. It's no fun. You had a little setback. NC is working well for you. Forget about this, get back on track and keep it up. Link to post Share on other sites
15Love Posted July 10, 2015 Share Posted July 10, 2015 For the record is it wrong to want another shot at it with her? Not now, not for a while. I have so much to work on for myself and I need to learn to make myself happy (slowly happening!) but in the future I see myself with her again. If at least rryintrying. No...it's not wrong. I'm sure lots of us on here want one more shot....whether we'll ever get one...it really isn't important. NC. Move on. Link to post Share on other sites
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