eizzil Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 I HAVE BEEN WITH MY GUY FOR SIX YEARS, LAST YEAR I FOUND OUT HE WAS HAVING AN AFFAIR. WHEN I TOLD HIM THAT I HAD FOUND HIM OUT, HE SAID THAT IT WAS ALL IN MY HEAD. WHEN I SPOKE TO HIM ON THE PHONE THE NIGHT BEFORE HE DID NOT TURN HIS PHONE OFF A I HEARD EVERYTHING THAT THEY WERE DOING, YET HE WAS TILL TELLING ME HE WAS NOT UP TO ANYTHING.ANYWAY I REALIZED THAT I TILL LOVED HIM. SO I STAYED WITH HIM ,I LOVE HIM BUT CANT TRUST HIM ,YET WE ARE GETTING MARRIED IN THE SUMMER, SO WHAT DO I DO ,I ,M SCARED OF BEING ON MY OWN. Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Marrying this guy under these circumstances will not make you happy, and putting on wedding rings does not magically make a guy monogamous, or any less of a liar. You will want to get yourself to some counseling so that you can begin to understand that you don't have to be with someone in order to be happy. Once you get the strength to stand on your own, you will be better able to deal with this situation. There is absolutely no hope for your relationship otherwise. You simply lack the strength to make the necessary ultimatums and hold to them. Your strength will lie in how willing you are to let this guy go, in order to get the relationship you want. You will have to tell him "either you stop your cheating, or I will leave you." Right now, I don't think you have the strength to say that and mean it. He knows that, and will continue exactly what he is doing because he knows he has absolutely nothing to lose in doing so. As long as your fear of being alone is your primary motivation for staying in this relationship, you are powerless. Call a counselor or a therapist. Today. Set up an appointment. Link to post Share on other sites
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