ive been told im obsessive, i need pointers please

[tez700]

I have been told im rly obsessive about the girl i am in love with, we are'nt dating but i just know that she is the one, she is a very good friend of mine, and i need help.

 

Ive been told im really obsessive, but i dont know how to stop it, i just need some pointers if anyone can help me?

 

id very very much appreciate it

 

thanx

[bicyclejunk]

I, in the past, think i'm been overly obsessive about

things too.

 

I find that if you find more things to occupy your time, you

tend to be less worked up about something that is bugging you.

Exercise helps, a new hobby helps.

 

Worrying about it all the time and thinking about it all the time, doesn't

do anything to change it or help it.

 

Here's a thought....if you open yourself up to the girl you are in love

with about your feelings towards her, you'll get closure on the whole

thing, the whole obsession thing. You'll have an answer.

 

we tend to obsess over things that are usually loose ends, something

we don't have, something that isn't complete.

[greenhorn]

Well I think I am clinically obsessive but I will try to put some points here.

 

I sometimes see obsession with resistance to change, and this is with everyone.

 

We all are in our comfort zone, when change comes we need to get out of our comfort zone and this is now know as 'stretch zone'. After a while this stretch zone becomes comfort zone.

 

But I really don't know whether this principle can be applied to when you are obsessed with girls or not

[John Charles]

Get closure fast!

 

if you tell her she may:

a) feel the same way

b)get weirded out and still be nice to you but not as trusting

c) get completely weirded out and never talk to you again

 

if you dont all of these will happen:

a)you'll obsess more

b)and More

c) AND MORE

 

but if its affecting your life really bad, like you think about it ALL the time. ..

 

GET CLOSURE FAST.

 

its a risk, win/lose situation, but hey thats what life is and the real losers are the one's who don't risk a damn.

 

alternatives:

a) never talk to her and get a life then come back years later and sweep her off her feet (of course by then, you'd have a life and not really care about her)

b) find more info from her best friend

c) change yourself that sets you apart from "friend" material to "friendship material" ( thats a whole new thread ) and try to attract her with your rico-suave, let her want you

d) get a clone machine from AUSTIN POWERS, grab a snip of her hair and plant a computer chip in her brain like the STEPFORD WIVEs and your all set!

[RecordProducer]

Trust your guts, but be patient!

[scarlyjones]

Well,...if you arent dating,.....then how are you being obsessive? What do these people say you're doing thats wrong or too obsessive?

[Nara]

Probably because of not dating, there's obsession.

You tend to idealize the one, you're in love with, but don't really have that in-love-contact with.

Your fantasies go wild, so your imagination does and that can get obsessive - if not doing a reality check.

So I'd suggest that...like the others said: meet her, tell her, see how things are...