heather03 Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 I broke up with my ex when he decided to study abroad for 6 months because i didnt want to do long distance again and he didnt even tell me he was choosing to go anyways..i wanted to focus on myself. However ive been thinking about him all the time; he stayed in constant contact with me when he was abroad and always asked how i was doing, telling me he wanted to get back together, etc. a few weeks ago he apologized for everything he did wrong in the relationship, saying pretty much all the reasons why i broke up with him and i never thought he would admit to it. He comes home in a few weeks and im not sure if i want to get back together with him; i felt like the first time he was always trying to travel on his own because of his major but maybe now things are different? Also my family really dislikes him because he left to study abroad and thinks i can do better. Its just been on my mind almost every day for the past month and im not sure what i should do.. Is it worth giving people another shot or best to move on? Link to post Share on other sites
La.Primavera Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 So if I understand this correctly, you didn't breakup due to excessive arguments, incompatibility or cheating? You both just decided to do what you thought was right for yourselves at the time. Him travelling for his education which is a great life experience, and you deciding (sensibly) that you didn't want the stress of a long distance relationship. If that is the case then I see no problem in reconnecting when he returns and see where it goes. Have fun. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author heather03 Posted July 11, 2015 Author Share Posted July 11, 2015 So if I understand this correctly, you didn't breakup due to excessive arguments, incompatibility or cheating? You both just decided to do what you thought was right for yourselves at the time. Him travelling for his education which is a great life experience, and you deciding (sensibly) that you didn't want the stress of a long distance relationship. If that is the case then I see no problem in reconnecting when he returns and see where it goes. Have fun. Well there were other reasons as well, mostly intimacy issues...he was always too nervous to have sex so we weren't the most physical couple. but he says he's working on it... Link to post Share on other sites
La.Primavera Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 I wouldn't rush into anything too serious to begin with then. See if he can back up his words by his actions before you make it official. Also, if your family doesn't like him, I would pay attention to that as well. Sometimes they are just overprotective but other times they notice red flags you might miss. Link to post Share on other sites
loveiswar101 Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 Life's to short. I say why not, take it slow, talk what you both want out of the relationship and if feel ok then go for it. Time apart would of done wonders, as say take it slow and above all communicate. Link to post Share on other sites
Yasuandio Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 He didn't exactly tell you what he was choosing to do - in studying abroad, therefore, he wasn't fully forthcoming in his decision making process early on, prior to break up. I would consider that, as well as the "physical issue" a red flag. As another poster mentioned, your folks evidently are picking up on something as well -- I would consider that wisdom with what you already know as fact. Yas Link to post Share on other sites
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