movingforward1 Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 (edited) -I'm 26 she's 24, we dated for 2 years and were each other's firsts. -She dumped me for greener grass, in addition to being stressed about her current job and emotional abuse by her aunt and uncle. I go NC for 2 months. -She realized it was a mistake, dumps grass guy but doesnt want me back because "shes confused" and "scared we will fight again" (we broke up due to communication issues) -She tried to sleep with me as an attempt to apologize for what she did. I politely declined but accepted her verbal apology. -I go NC for 2 months once again, this time telling her "I think we just don't work out. I wish you the best." -She texted me today asking if she could come over in a few days to hang out and even make me dinner. -I live with 5 other guys and share a room with 3 so it's not going to be anything about sex. What should I do? Thanks to NC, I've fully recovered from the relationship and forgave her for what she did. I neither hate her nor do I love her, but I don't wish to be friendzoned. I am open to her wanting a second chance should she make it convincing. I have a couple girls I've been flirting with on the side as well. Should I just accept her offer and see how it plays out? I ran the scenario in my head and if it just becomes routine friendly hang-outs I would just cut it off for good. Edited July 11, 2015 by movingforward1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted July 11, 2015 Share Posted July 11, 2015 If you want a "second chance" -- in a month or three -- then play hard to get. And, while you're playing hard to get, learn better communication skills and emotional intelligence (I had a different link than that, but can't find it at the minute.) It may be a challenge to not just say, "Yeah, sure, come over tomorrow and cook me dinner"....but, seriously, how desperate does that sound, even to your own mind, right now? Link to post Share on other sites
ravfour4 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Make her wait a week or two and do it. At this point if you deny her you may lose her for good, others say that they'll come back regardless if it's "meant" to be, but coming over to cook you dinner sounds like one small step towards reconciliation. If you're feeling healed and not very anxious about this AND you have some other female prospects, why not test the waters? Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Drama all over the place around her. I'd stay away for good if I were you. Block her if necessary. Link to post Share on other sites
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