Dom4400 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Going to try to keep this short because I'm typing this from my phone. My gf has been on hard times lately with loss of job (layoff) about 8 months ago. I know she's been down about it so I've Breen doing little things to keep her spirits up like trips to the beach, trips to the mountains, concerts. Stuff like that. I've also been paying her rent, food, cell bill and occasionally give her spending money. Last week i went to her place after work and she was passed out with her phone in front of her. I don't know why but I decided to go through it. What I found was out of a bad dream, she has a plenty of fish account, tagged, adult finder and she has been texting and talking to ALOT of guys. Some texts she talked about enjoying the sex. Others she talked about enjoying what they did to her. I counted over 20 different guys. I don't know how I did it but I waited to the next morning before confronting her. She denied all of it and claims it wasn't cheating, just innocent flirting. The fact that she thinks I'm too stupid to realize what's been going on and won't come clean and admit really has me fired up. So far I turned off the cell because I was paying for it, sold the car I bought her and I haven't paid her rent. She will get evicted in 3 more weeks. I feel like this isn't enough, I want her to suffer more than that. Sounds crazy but I want her to feel some pain from the devastation this caused me. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
wizer Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 I think you should break up with her. 6 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Going to try to keep this short because I'm typing this from my phone. My gf has been on hard times lately with loss of job (layoff) about 8 months ago. I know she's been down about it so I've Breen doing little things to keep her spirits up like trips to the beach, trips to the mountains, concerts. Stuff like that. I've also been paying her rent, food, cell bill and occasionally give her spending money. Last week i went to her place after work and she was passed out with her phone in front of her. I don't know why but I decided to go through it. What I found was out of a bad dream, she has a plenty of fish account, tagged, adult finder and she has been texting and talking to ALOT of guys. Some texts she talked about enjoying the sex. Others she talked about enjoying what they did to her. I counted over 20 different guys. I don't know how I did it but I waited to the next morning before confronting her. She denied all of it and claims it wasn't cheating, just innocent flirting. The fact that she thinks I'm too stupid to realize what's been going on and won't come clean and admit really has me fired up. So far I turned off the cell because I was paying for it, sold the car I bought her and I haven't paid her rent. She will get evicted in 3 more weeks. I feel like this isn't enough, I want her to suffer more than that. Sounds crazy but I want her to feel some pain from the devastation this caused me. You've done enough....now make her insignificant so you can close this chapter in your life and move on. No use beating a dead horse. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Omei Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 (edited) Agree you've done enough cut all cash benefits, wow you're awfully nice to do that in the first place when even tho your her partner you arnt required to support her entirely dare I say what an ungrateful bitch? Trust me shes feeling that hurt likely not over the loss of you if shes flirting she obviously didn't respect you but over the loss of her place and free ride. Leave. Try to not let her actions make you jaded into thinking all woman are this way, if I had a man like you while I was laid off and he decided to support me while I got back on my feet you bet your ass id be doing everything and more to make sure he felt appreciated. Don't feel dumb these things happen to a lot of people its hard to find trustworthy people but keep giving your trust until undeserved. Edited July 12, 2015 by Omei Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dom4400 Posted July 12, 2015 Author Share Posted July 12, 2015 (edited) Its definitely over. All of the begging and pleading I bet is more about the cash cow ending versus our supposed relationship. I just don't understand the mindset of "its not cheating" for example her response to everything has been that didn't happen or it was innocent flirting. So I pulled one of the texts that mention specific acts that obviously occured based on the context and her response was " oh he stuck his tongue in my mouth and lifted my shirt and sucked on my tits, it wasn't my fault and I stopped it from going further". The fact that she is still dodging responsibility and giving me this BS angers the **** out of me. Not to mention that there are tons of messages like that. I thought about sending a mass text and email out to everyone of the contacts in her phone with some of the context from all these different guys along with std testing center locations. Part of me wishes I could rent the cnn.com homepage and post her picture along with whore in the caption. I dunno I'm just really pissed and hurt. Edited July 12, 2015 by Dom4400 Link to post Share on other sites
Friskyone4u Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Consider yourself lucky that you found this out without any kids or mortgage to worry about. The best revenge you can have is to make her a distant memory and not listen to one word she says . She is either too stupid or too sick to think that with what you have in front of you that you are going to believe her delusional denials . Stop the pain shopping. You can do better and do not need any more details. She is going to continue to lie so why bother and with what she has done with 20 guys involved here why would you want to do anything but make her disappear even if she admitted to everything Link to post Share on other sites
irishguy Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Revenge wont make you feel any better ,she was definitely using you for what she could get .**** revenge, just be happy you never married the cheating bitch ,so now you can walk away clean . A girl like that will never feel the hurt she has caused because more than likely it doesnt bother her,just cut her out of your life . Block her number if you havent already. Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 You're right to be upset and I'm glad you cut her off. I hope you go no contact with her entirely rather than drag this out. But please remember that if you continue to dwell on this and seek revenge, it is really only going to hurt you and keep you stirred up. The best revenge is living well, and you are going to do just that and let her worry about her own messed up life alone. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dom4400 Posted July 12, 2015 Author Share Posted July 12, 2015 Thanks everyone for the responses. I agree with what you are all saying. I am thankful that we aren't married and have no children. Thankfully I am able to walk away clean from her. I blocked her from all of my social media and now she is blocked from coming into my community since I had her put on the no entry list at the gate entries. I'm struggling with not thinking about this. I'm even trying to consume myself with work and other activities. One minute I feel like beating ass, the next I feel physically ill and then the next I feel like I need answers. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 She's just lying to cover her a$s. Sadly, it often works, but luckily you aren't one of the blue-eyed. Let her deal with her own problems, time for her to put her big girl pants back on. You did everything right so far, blocking, cutting her off and so on - but all of that won't replace the time-factor. A few weeks down the road and you'll feel much different than the rage and disgust you feel now. And in case she shows up at your door - don't let her in, ever. And no sex, she might try to baby-trap you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 Good lord bro, she let you support her for 8 months! Didn't that say anything to you about her?? All you did was enable her to sit on her frickin ass. Next GF, don't give her money, help her find a job, but that's it. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 So I pulled one of the texts that mention specific acts that obviously occured based on the context and her response was " oh he stuck his tongue in my mouth and lifted my shirt and sucked on my tits, it wasn't my fault and I stopped it from going further". Well she is quite the paragon of virtue for not letting it go any further.....please do not give this accidental tit suck recipient any more headspace. Let her go to get her tits sucked with impunity. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingDeadGrl Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 Make sure you get tested for STI's and the like. Be glad to be rid of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Spectre Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 (edited) I thought about sending a mass text and email out to everyone of the contacts in her phone with some of the context from all these different guys along with std testing center locations. Part of me wishes I could rent the cnn.com homepage and post her picture along with whore in the caption. I dunno I'm just really pissed and hurt. You know what? I say do it. Skanks like this who cheat usually do not inform the people they are cheating with what huge whores they are. So these guys might not of even known she had a boyfriend. Plus really whether she actually screwing many dudes or legitimately just let a dude boob suck her and not go any further..she still skanky, so it is best to get rid of her. People will say "revenge won't help" but this is actually bunk, because it really depends on the type of person and the type of revenge. For instance, you exposing this chick as a ho isn't going to hurt you(even if it doesn't HELP you) and who knows it might help some other poor schmuck get this shady female out of their life. You also know that this b*tch is probably telling anyone who will listen that this is your fault or that you used to beat her or something. So I would say "hell yes, put her in her place". I'd at least go around and tell all her family and friends what she did, because if you don't I guarantee you 1000000% she will be making you look like someone worse then Ike Turner to them. The reason some of these people never change is because their friends and family never find out what shady pieces of crap they are. These women will lie and say you were verbally abusive or physically abusive, anything to excuse their own behavior. Hell you know what? I'd take it even one step further: letting people know about her behavior is not even you getting revenge, it is you doing a damn public service. Like when a place is dangerous to swim in due to sharks or strong currents we put up signs, get the word out so people know not to swim there. You doing the same thing here..getting the word out so people know not to mess with this shady female. Edited July 15, 2015 by Spectre Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dom4400 Posted July 19, 2015 Author Share Posted July 19, 2015 The begging and pleading is becoming over the top. She keeps calling from different numbers and each time I block the new number she calls from. I've mostly been hanging up on her but I did have a 10 minute conversation on one of the calls and asked her to come clean and be honest. She said that she did it for attention. With all of the rejections she had been getting with not finding work that she was scared that nobody wanted her. She also said she was afraid that I would loose interest in her with her not working. Which I think is BS. That's no excuse to go out and have sex or flirt with a bunch of guys. This morning she showed up at my door which I don't understand how she got past security, anyways she did the same begging and pleading that she has been doing over the phone. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 It is BS. Yes she wanted attention, but her primary reason is that she wanted to cake-eat. Of course she's more frantic than the usual cheater at excusing and begging because you've been financing her entire existence, and her current lovers probably all hung up on her when she asked if she could stay for a couple of nights. Continue to block and remain in NC, she has nothing to say to you anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
TaraMaiden2 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 This one's going to run and run.... Contact the police and tell them she's trespassing. Then get an restraining order put on her. Sorted. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Maybe one of her very plentiful f*ck buddies will pick up the bill and pay her rent, buy her a new car, give her a new phone, and hand her spending money. And for what it's worth? Most of us have been out of work at one time or another. And most of us have also dealt with rejection after rejection and not getting calls from prospective employers when we've applied for jobs. I don't speak for all of us but I'm pretty damned sure that most of us have NOT started AdultFriendFinder or PlentyofFish accounts and stated acting like a dog in heat with anyone who would have us because we were feeling so 'rejected' in our job search. She's a real piece of crap who did nothing but use you because you were far too kind to pay her bills for her. Hopefully you'll be driving in the seedy part of town a few weeks from now and see her living in her new refrigerator box out on the sidewalk with the rest of the homeless people. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 The begging and pleading is becoming over the top. She keeps calling from different numbers and each time I block the new number she calls from. I've mostly been hanging up on her but I did have a 10 minute conversation on one of the calls and asked her to come clean and be honest. She said that she did it for attention. With all of the rejections she had been getting with not finding work that she was scared that nobody wanted her. She also said she was afraid that I would loose interest in her with her not working. Which I think is BS. That's no excuse to go out and have sex or flirt with a bunch of guys. This morning she showed up at my door which I don't understand how she got past security, anyways she did the same begging and pleading that she has been doing over the phone. She's not begging for forgiveness for what she's done.... She's desperate because of the fact that she has no financial support from you anymore. That is her only motivation to be showing up at your door. Tell security to call the police next time she shows up. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Space Ritual Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Dom, She is no longer your problem. Stick you your guns and make her insignificant. She can't go around cavorting when she has no money and nowhere to live...again, not your problem. You are nothing but a bill payer to her and she fears losing that security. She really does not care about you, just your wallet. Link to post Share on other sites
nouedis Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 There is one thing you could do... Forgive her, but never forget it. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dom4400 Posted July 20, 2015 Author Share Posted July 20, 2015 I came home from dinner and this time she was in my house with no clothes on. I threatened to call police and she finally left. Tomorrow I change the locks and I already changed the security code. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I came home from dinner and this time she was in my house with no clothes on. I threatened to call police and she finally left. Tomorrow I change the locks and I already changed the security code. Whoa that's desperate or what lol. Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Whoa that's desperate or what lol. Sex works the best to pursue a man. At least she tried. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Dom4400 Posted August 15, 2015 Author Share Posted August 15, 2015 I feel like I just made another bad decision. Yesterday she was standing by my car when I left work, she looked like she hadn't showered in a couple of days and she has a split lip. I asked her what happened and she just started crying. I offered to get her a hotel room so she could get herself together and she started crying even harder almost causing a scene at my work. I made the mistake of driving her back to my house and let her stay the night in the guest room. I'm definitely not taking her back but I feel a little bad for her. I'm mixed on what my next step should be. I trust nothing she says and I'm thankful that I am no longer attracted to her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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