Art_Critic Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 The next step is you DO NOT become this girls lifesaver.. You can't keep telling yourself this is good for you or her... and keep your Mr Wiggles in your pants.. she will use that next to reel you in so she has a place to stay and then you will feel used when she shiots all over you again. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
m.snow Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 give a man a fish and you feed him for a day; teach a man to fish and you feed him for a lifetime. Link to post Share on other sites
Lois_Griffin Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 I feel like I just made another bad decision. Yesterday she was standing by my car when I left work, she looked like she hadn't showered in a couple of days and she has a split lip. I asked her what happened and she just started crying. I offered to get her a hotel room so she could get herself together and she started crying even harder almost causing a scene at my work. I made the mistake of driving her back to my house and let her stay the night in the guest room. I'm definitely not taking her back but I feel a little bad for her. I'm mixed on what my next step should be. I trust nothing she says and I'm thankful that I am no longer attracted to her. Stop enabling her. You have a kind heart and I really admire you. But stop enabling her. Now. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 I feel like I just made another bad decision. Yesterday she was standing by my car when I left work, she looked like she hadn't showered in a couple of days and she has a split lip. I asked her what happened and she just started crying. I offered to get her a hotel room so she could get herself together and she started crying even harder almost causing a scene at my work. I made the mistake of driving her back to my house and let her stay the night in the guest room. I'm definitely not taking her back but I feel a little bad for her. I'm mixed on what my next step should be. I trust nothing she says and I'm thankful that I am no longer attracted to her. What is it going to take for you to understand that she's a manipulative, lying wh0re? What you need to do is to get a RO filed against her. She is stalking you, trespassing in your home, coming up to your job making a scene. Seriously--what more is it going to take? She probably split her own lip by walking drunk into a door. Seriously. If I had an obvious busted lip that happened from someone hitting, me, that would be the first thing that flew out of my mouth, not busting down into tears and not answering the question. She didn't answer you because she didn't get beat up and tears are the manipulative woman's first weapon to use on a guy who won't fall for her antics. She was grown enough to be screwing around behind your back, so let her be grown enough to stand in the middle of that truth and take her ass-whippin' for it. It won't hurt her to find a shelter and services while she sorts out her life. Also: from one of your posts upstream---about cheating because no one will give her a job---what does employment have to do with sexual attention from men? Did you not catch that disconnect? Girl, bye. Yeah--time for a restraining order. And keep her out of your house. Also--that no entry thing that your community was supposed to use to deny her access to your house? You need to be on some supervisor's head about their employee letting her onto the property so she could get into your home. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 Good lord you just got sucked in, now she really knows how frickin weak you are....she found out which button to push....the sympathy button. You are so done. Better watch it, you may find one of the kitchen knives in your back. Link to post Share on other sites
Maxtor Posted August 15, 2015 Share Posted August 15, 2015 She will continue to show up with bad hair, etc etc just cause she knows you will feel pity and help her. Stop. You are not her father, you are not her banker, you are not her therapist. Continue with your life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
joseb Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 She said that she did it for attention. With all of the rejections she had been getting with not finding work that she was scared that nobody wanted her. She also said she was afraid that I would loose interest in her with her not working.. Hahahahahahahahaha. Sorry i know i shouldnt laugh, ive been cheated on before and its horrible, but this has to be one of the stupidest excuses ive heard. As if not finding work has anything to do with being a slut Look, it sounds like you are still in a bit of denial. You may still be vulnerable to her manipulation . You need to make sure you get her out of your life 100% 1 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 Nononono. Get the police to remove her from your house before she starts claiming you beat her and gets you into jail. Don't fall for her acting, you were doing so well! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
DatingDirection Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 I don't blame you for taking her in again, after she shows up with a bleeding lip. But, you should have not taken her into your home, maybe a women's shelter, and let them deal with it. You're not a bad person for it, but this woman seems to have a lot of issues, that are not you're problem anymore. She could have just done that to herself, to get your sympathy, you never know what a psychopath she really is? Why did you feel the need to pay her rent, and rescue her like that in the first place? Did you want to have some control over her or something? Clearly, there was some part of you that may not have trusted her loyalty to you, that you had to over compensate by paying for EVERY SINGLE THING FOR HER, TAKING HER ON TRIPS AND STUFF? Am i way off here? I think she's a psychopath, if my guy did all that for me, I would feel horrible going behind his back, like she did with you. But that's all done with now, and now she's starting more drama in your light, being abused, homelss and stuff, and coming to you for help. Don't help her out anymore, at all, turn her over to a professional who can help her out. Her issues are way beyond you. Link to post Share on other sites
LostOnes05 Posted August 16, 2015 Share Posted August 16, 2015 I don't it has to do with overcompensation at all. He was trying to be a great boyfriend to her and she was busy being a slore. We've all done things for people who in the end, weren't worth a damn. But here is your choice...either continue to be the doormat she can wipe her feet on every time she is down and out or give her the sweetest revenge possible...forget her. When she comes to your job, walk by her. When she shows up in your development get back in your car and go do something. You must cut her off like a festering limb. Would you sacrifice the entire foot for a toe?... Link to post Share on other sites
SawtoothMars Posted August 19, 2015 Share Posted August 19, 2015 Why did you feel the need to pay her rent, and rescue her like that in the first place? Did you want to have some control over her or something? Clearly, there was some part of you that may not have trusted her loyalty to you, that you had to over compensate by paying for EVERY SINGLE THING FOR HER, TAKING HER ON TRIPS AND STUFF? Am i way off here? Have you never been in love? People do all kinds of silly, crazy, irrational things when they are in love. Giving doesn't have to have some nefarious motive. Link to post Share on other sites
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