youdunsay Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 To begin with, I am super lazy to attend weddings. Weddings in my culture are boring gala dinners where guests only dine and gossip with people across the table. And I am not close to my cousin even though we live in the same city. We used to hangout for games when we were very young (7-8 years old) but as we grew older, we weren't close anymore. We hardly talk to each other even on annual family gatherings. It was only polite greetings. Now, my mum says it would be rude that I skip the wedding and not "showing face". But my brother and my parents are attending so I dont see a point that they need a group of people for the show. Well I understand that I am still staying with her, I think my choice of whether to accept this invitation is solely a decision of my own. Link to post Share on other sites
CC12 Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 If you're an adult, then yes, it's your own decision. However, your absence would be obvious since your brother and parents are going and I think it would be unfair of you to place them in a position where they either have to lie when people ask where you are or tell the truth and say, "Youdunsay didn't want to come because s/he thinks weddings are boring." And people will ask them where you are. Also, you might hurt your cousin's feelings even though you two aren't close anymore. You don't have a great reason for not going, so just suck it up and go. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 12, 2015 Share Posted July 12, 2015 It's not rude per se. However, since your own mother has already told you that she would be upset if you failed to attend, go to the wedding because your mother wants you there. The 5 hours you will "save" by not attending is hardly worth the months & possibly years of grief you will get by skipping it. Link to post Share on other sites
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