Black Cement Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 So looks like the girl I've had a crush on for over a year now, is finally gonna be single. I thought this day would never come lol. She posted how much she hates him & all this bad stuff about him. Just so happens she liked one of my selfies the other day too, & she never did before either. Should I wait til they're officially broken up to hit her up? She deserves better & I want to be the man to step up to the plate. Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 I wouldn't get too excited yet. People trash talk their BF/GF/Husband/Wife all the time, and even talk about breaking up, but have no intentions of actually breaking up. They just want to vent and get some sympathy or advice. So basically, take her 'future plans of breaking up' with a grain of salt until it's actually done. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 She was with him cuz there was something inside/about her that wanted to be there. So, how are you so sure she's gonna look for anything different/better (which you believe you are for her)? Be careful not to be a rebound, "o'l faithful/tampon" until her ex calls her back for more beatings... If you wanna step in, maybe just be "available/around" her - but not too clingy and see how she is coming out of it. Like, invite her to group stuff (be like "hey, dude is having bbq this weekend, wanna come?") And, if she accepts the invites, take her, but don't be "on" her as if you two came as a couple...What I'm trying to say is to be around her - but not too much either so you're not pressuring her to jump into another RL so soon, yet not be her emotional tampon/friendzoned. By being around her, hopefully you'll be able to see if/when her wounds have healed and you can proceed with taking it to another level. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Black Cement Posted July 13, 2015 Author Share Posted July 13, 2015 She was with him cuz there was something inside/about her that wanted to be there. So, how are you so sure she's gonna look for anything different/better (which you believe you are for her)? Be careful not to be a rebound, "o'l faithful/tampon" until her ex calls her back for more beatings... If you wanna step in, maybe just be "available/around" her - but not too clingy and see how she is coming out of it. Like, invite her to group stuff (be like "hey, dude is having bbq this weekend, wanna come?") And, if she accepts the invites, take her, but don't be "on" her as if you two came as a couple...What I'm trying to say is to be around her - but not too much either so you're not pressuring her to jump into another RL so soon, yet not be her emotional tampon/friendzoned. By being around her, hopefully you'll be able to see if/when her wounds have healed and you can proceed with taking it to another level. Sounds like it's most likely over now. I've always been a "tampon." Girls always come to me when things are going bad in their relationships. They tried to get with me but I always resisted. This girl is different, I genuinely think she's into me & I don't want to be in the friend zone. I'll try not to be clingy and thirsty. Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 If you rush in there before her tears even have a chance to dry, she will decline because she is not ready or you will be her rebound. She needs to mourn the old relationship before she can start a new one. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Lansing Posted July 13, 2015 Share Posted July 13, 2015 Do you really want to date a girl who publicly hangs her laundry... Based on my experience dating a girl quickly after she broke up with her long term boyfriend I would say it isn't worth it. If you just want to "get some" then go for it. Otherwise, if you want a "relationship" with her don't move too quickly. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Black Cement Posted July 14, 2015 Author Share Posted July 14, 2015 I most differently want a relationship, not a one night stand. So what you guys are saying is that the best thing I should is wait? Whens the right time to make a move? Link to post Share on other sites
organizedchaos Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 I most differently want a relationship, not a one night stand. So what you guys are saying is that the best thing I should is wait? Whens the right time to make a move? 3 months. She will be nowhere near ready to get serious about anyone right now after a year with her bf. You can convince yourself otherwise, but you'd be wrong. You try to date her now and all you might get is a brief fling until she realizes she needs time and dumps you. No matter how much she actually hates him, she will need to mourn the loss. Link to post Share on other sites
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