Ever feel like everything is just going wrong?

[LovedNC]

Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, bad stuff just keeps happening?

 

I by no means have a horrible life. I have a career, a fiance (although that has its downfalls lately), wonderful family and friends....

 

But I just feel like no matter what I do, I'm not happy. I do things the right way. I don't cheat the system, I don't expect others to take care of me...

 

I just wish some good luck would come my way for once... good things are supposed to come to those who wait, right?

[La.Primavera]

good things are supposed to come to those who wait, right?

 

In my experience good things come to those who actively search for it. They figure out what they really want out of life, face their fears and make their dreams a reality.

 

If their is something in your life that isn't working, you need figure out what it is so you can fix it. Maybe you wish you were doing something else with your life? Think about what a happy life would look like for you. What would it take to make that happen?

[JunzQ]

Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, bad stuff just keeps happening?

 

I by no means have a horrible life. I have a career, a fiance (although that has its downfalls lately), wonderful family and friends....

 

But I just feel like no matter what I do, I'm not happy. I do things the right way. I don't cheat the system, I don't expect others to take care of me...

 

I just wish some good luck would come my way for once... good things are supposed to come to those who wait, right?

 

To be completly honest with you. I've felt the same way. You have to get out of your comfort zone man. Everyone always says live each day like it's your last. This is very true there's tons of techniques that will show you how to live in he moment. Man your way better off than me I don't have any of those things. No career no fiancee. Hell I don't even have a job anymore. My job wasn't feeling fulfilling and I ended up slacking and now I'm out of work. I thought it would make me happier but it hasn't having all this time on my hands is actually swallowing me in my own thoughts. Any way bavk to you. Try to live in the moment and go out more worry less about consiquences and more about your fun and entertaining life. It seems like everything in North America is such a standardized way of living there's no real wiggle room to live life differently. If you wanna get out of this work everyday for the next 40 years and then retire when your 65 life. You need to move to a new country something I'm also contemplating.

[tuzmusic]

Do you ever feel like no matter what you do, bad stuff just keeps happening?

 

I by no means have a horrible life. I have a career, a fiance (although that has its downfalls lately), wonderful family and friends....

 

But I just feel like no matter what I do, I'm not happy. I do things the right way. I don't cheat the system, I don't expect others to take care of me...

 

I just wish some good luck would come my way for once... good things are supposed to come to those who wait, right?

 

I'm really sorry to hear you're feeling this way! It really sounds like despite all the good things in your life, the things you think are supposed to bring you happiness, it's just not working.

 

I'm curious, what does the life you want look like?

[LovedNC]

I guess I just wish I were in a little bubble. Sometimes I smile at people at the grocery store, just in passing, not the creepy way, and I get the weirdest looks. Or when you were walking in your neighborhood and would say hi to the people sitting in their yard. People just don't do that anymore without someone thinking you're weird. I always tell my fiance I belong in a different time period, I love my job and go crazy if I don't wprk, but I would love to be in a time where it was normal for women to be a stay at home mom. Fantasy I know, but people are so wrapped up in everything that they don't appreciate the little things anymore....

[StalwartMind]

Ah the "not belonging on this period" dilemma, I most certainly understand that, and I've heard it before too, quite recently. Fairly sure my friend wanted to be in the 30s or so. I don't even belong on this planet, fairly certain I'm from another planet.

 

On a very serious note too, not that I didn't mean any of above, it is indeed a problematic position to be in, times are different today than say even just 10 or 15 years ago. There are probably many things to blame, as great as the internet is and all that it has done for our world, it also brings some bad with it. The way we communicate is very different and perhaps people in some sense have become more distant, I guess it depends a bit where you do live on this planet.

 

One may argue you have nothing to complain about, if you have all that you do, and you aren't really "that unhappy", but see, that's just people comparing lives and no one should do that. Every individual is different, but it's just so easy to generalize. What you feel is very real, but unfortunately a lot don't relate to it, and thus you automatically will be judged or shunned, since you don't share the "new standard" which our society has accepted.

 

I don't think it's impossible to find a place in this world where you really can feel at home, where people will not give you odd looks when you smile or greet them. I do recognize what you say though, and I've also noticed a difference, I'm sure most of us have, even if we've just slowly accepted it as being the new "normal" way to be. Being honest about your feelings is the correct way actually get into a better mental state with accepting reality. I don't doubt you'll eventually find peace and comfort in your life again, where you will feel welcome and also fortunate.

 

As mentioned above in a reply, good things may come to those who wait, but I do believe that if you don't make an effort either, as in try to open yourself to the possibility of good things can happen, then they typically won't. People that believe they are lucky, often are more than those who think they are not. In a way it has a lot to do with your state of mind, everything balances out eventually.

 

Don't be discouraged too much by this period in your life, and actually try to think of it as something positive, especially that you even just started this post. It may not give you any closure immediately, but perhaps with time, you'll find wisdom in things around you, here or elsewhere. It's possible to encounter anyone or anything at any time, who will take you on the path that you need to go in order to end up wherever it is you feel you need to be in life.

 

As a small note, sometimes it's actually required to move elsewhere too, or even just visit a location to feel inspiration or just something that can give you a push in the right direction. Again, you do have to make an effort yourself, whatever that will be, is up for you to decide, but inactivity rarely yields the wanted results.

[La.Primavera]

I guess I just wish I were in a little bubble. Sometimes I smile at people at the grocery store, just in passing, not the creepy way, and I get the weirdest looks. Or when you were walking in your neighborhood and would say hi to the people sitting in their yard. People just don't do that anymore without someone thinking you're weird. I always tell my fiance I belong in a different time period, I love my job and go crazy if I don't wprk, but I would love to be in a time where it was normal for women to be a stay at home mom. Fantasy I know, but people are so wrapped up in everything that they don't appreciate the little things anymore....

 

Both of those things are possible if you really want them. The smaller the town, the closer the community tends to be, so if you live in a big city you could consider moving somewhere with less people. Do some research, narrow down the search and have a weekend away to check the place out to see what the locals are like. Even just the process might make you feel happier and energized.

 

In regards to wanting a stay at home wife raising kids, I can assure you there are plenty of women out there that would like that lifestyle. You should seriously think about how important that is to you before you get married. Talk to your fiancee about it. Maybe you could find a compromise?

 

At the end of the day there are plenty of excuses why it can't be done but if you really want it, you can have the things you desire.

[LovedNC]

My fiance knows how I feel, and we've talked about moving. It's not something we can do at this moment, but we are hoping to in the next year or so. He also has been thinking about advancing his degree and moving up in our profession, with the hopes that when we do have children, that I can take off the time I would like. Then if I did want to go back to work, I could, but if I didn't, then we'd be ok.

[tuzmusic]

I guess I just wish I were in a little bubble. Sometimes I smile at people at the grocery store, just in passing, not the creepy way, and I get the weirdest looks. Or when you were walking in your neighborhood and would say hi to the people sitting in their yard. People just don't do that anymore without someone thinking you're weird. I always tell my fiance I belong in a different time period, I love my job and go crazy if I don't wprk, but I would love to be in a time where it was normal for women to be a stay at home mom. Fantasy I know, but people are so wrapped up in everything that they don't appreciate the little things anymore....

 

I hear you! You try to reach out to people, and they don't seem to respond the way you'd like them to. And then you feel like a weirdo or an outcast – that's never fun .

 

It sounds like you'd like a life where you could talk with people freely and connect with them, and stay at home to be close with your kids once you have them. Is that accurate? What else would your happy life be like? What would you do, how would you feel?

Edited July 16, 2015 by tuzmusic