Bubberfly Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Here it is... My almost one year NC-versary is coming up. I'm not really proud of myself for not contacting him... I really haven't had anything to say to him. And I'm kind of a stubborn cow. He was the one who dumped me, if he wants to talk to me, he knows where to find me. I'm just kind of shocked I haven't run into him around town. Not even once. We don't live in a big town. We have mutual friends, but nothing. It's not like I've been avoiding him. Is he making a huge point to avoid me? What, does he run in the other direction if he sees me? Doesn't go into a store because he sees my truck outside? My mom said she saw him at a store a couple of months ago, and he wasn't even polite enough to say hello to her. My mom told me he just looked at her in shock and walked away. He knew who she was, he was almost related to her, why couldn't he just be polite? I think the whole "been a year" thing has just got me confused. It doesn't feel that long. It kind of bothers me that I haven't even stumbled across him in town. I know he still lives here. Just... Too weird. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Reels Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Must had been very hard for you. How many times did you wished that he should contact you? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Ariess10 Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Maybe it's hard for him also, the thing is when you breakup you don't see the other side .. I will do everything in my power not to see or run into my ex.. The other day I saw her truck for the first time since the break up (almost4 months) I got as far away from there as I could .. For me it would be very hard to see her , I don't want to see her I'm still hurting .. Until this pain has passed then and only then I won't make such a effort to avoid her.. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kasop Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 Your mom shouldnt of told u that. He didnt say hello and that obviously had a pull on you. I had to tell everybody that knew my ex and me to give me absolutely no information on her. Imagine if you did keep running into him.. how would that make you feel better? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
aloneinaz Posted July 14, 2015 Share Posted July 14, 2015 It's too bad you haven't run into him with the new love of your life. Are you dating at all? How you feeling after a year NC? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubberfly Posted July 15, 2015 Author Share Posted July 15, 2015 Must had been very hard for you. How many times did you wished that he should contact you? I haven't really wanted him to contact me at all. But you would think he and I would have bumped into eachother at least ONCE since our break up... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubberfly Posted July 15, 2015 Author Share Posted July 15, 2015 Maybe it's hard for him also, the thing is when you breakup you don't see the other side .. I will do everything in my power not to see or run into my ex.. The other day I saw her truck for the first time since the break up (almost4 months) I got as far away from there as I could .. For me it would be very hard to see her , I don't want to see her I'm still hurting .. Until this pain has passed then and only then I won't make such a effort to avoid her.. I'm sorry you're in pain. And you're right, I don't really know how he's feeling right now. I've always assumed since he broke up with me and essentially had his foot out the door the whole time we were together he just wouldn't give two ****s if he saw me around. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubberfly Posted July 15, 2015 Author Share Posted July 15, 2015 Your mom shouldnt of told u that. He didnt say hello and that obviously had a pull on you. I had to tell everybody that knew my ex and me to give me absolutely no information on her. Imagine if you did keep running into him.. how would that make you feel better? This is true... I didn't really think to tell my mom not to speak about him. I think she was actually hurt by his actions and needed to speak to me about it. She was looking forward to him being in our lives for a long time and as a possible future son. I've seen his family around many times and am always polite and pleased to see them. They never really tell me about him, I never ask how he's doing. Like I said, it's a pretty small town, it's good to be nice to people. Haha I'm upset that he couldn't show the same courtesy when HE dumped ME. So here I am garbage to him and I still treat his family nice since for a while they were my family. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Bubberfly Posted July 15, 2015 Author Share Posted July 15, 2015 It's too bad you haven't run into him with the new love of your life. Are you dating at all? How you feeling after a year NC? Haha my new love of my life is ME. I haven't dated since him, I'm still not ready for that. But I've been very busy, focusing on work, weight loss, school, friends. I've been having a hard time getting it into my head that its been a YEAR. It feels like yesterday we broke up, which is odd to me since I've accomplished so much since then (more than when we were together!). I don't really miss him, I guess I miss the company a bit. He really understood me quite well and accepted me. But he didn't want me and was cheating the whole time we were together. I do know eventually I will find a great guy... I'm not too worried about that. So I don't feel like I'll always be alone. I think maybe my being upset about his actions as well is that, I haven't had this with ANY of my exes. While my exes and I may not be friends, we're all civil to eachother. I still see a lot of their families around too hahahaha I just don't really understand where he's coming from and part of me wishes we could talk so I could understand his side and why he (possibly) feels the need to avoid me/be rude to my family after all this time. Link to post Share on other sites
Reels Posted July 15, 2015 Share Posted July 15, 2015 Would you tell if your friends or any other observers have commented on you? If they feel that you are changed or seem uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
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