Miss Confused Posted May 3, 2005 Share Posted May 3, 2005 Ok long story short...in nov of 2004 i met my soldier over the net in iraq...we hit it off good and are good friends all the way up til today..when i met him, i had a bf and we were havin sum probs and soldier helped me deal with those. and with that he developed feelings for me and whanot...so now its been 6months we have been knowin each other and we've come to tha conclusion that we are bestfriends..he got deployed to korea in jan. and at the end of that month mayb the beginning of feb. he tol me he loved me...he didnt rely specify how, like in a romantic way or just as friends... well since that day we've been sayin i love u's everytime we email, talk on the phone, IM,etc.. he gets to come back to the states beginning of june, and he wants to meet me..im psyched, but im a little confused on where our relationship is at this point..i say that because, i jus mailed him a letter and sum PHYSICAL pictures (he's seen me thru pix ive sent thru email) last week and he got it yesterday... So yea he got tha pckge yesterday and he sent me this IM today: (5:27:50 PM): i received the package or letter yesterday....it had been here for a while but they never brought it out to the field where i was at (5:28:29 PM): i really liked the pictures (5:28:48 PM): someone is a cutie! (5:31:49 PM): i undadig you as well and appreciate what we have in the form of a friendship of course he sent more then that, but thats what i am confused about....me and him we talk about how we are good friends blah blah and yet sometimes he talk to me about being his gf but wantin to wait until he comes to the states..and then i send him a pckg and he goes your cute,etc i appreciate what we have in the form of a friendship.. is that his way of sayin, im not pretty enough to be his gf? or do you think there could be more to me and him? Link to post Share on other sites
nugirl Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Why are you sending PHYSICAL pictures of yourself to some man you met over the internet? Also, you never even told us what happeend to your last b/f. He's the one who may have a right to be hurt right now. Anyway, sending a man who is not oyur boyfriend PHYSICAL pictures is like sleeping with a man who isnt your boyfriend. DO you honestly think that this guy is going to respect you now? I mean, do you think that he thinks that you are a respectable lady? He could be waiting till he gets to the states because he doesnt want to mess with a girl who sends those pictures to any guy who pays her any attention. He may be trying to meet you so that he can see what you are really about. Wait for him to come back if you really like him, but I would advise-no more pictures like that and dont push him to be in a relationship yet. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest1984 Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 When you say PHYSICAL pictures, do you mean physical as in printed out photos (as opposed to digital pictures on the computer), or physical as in pictures of a suggestive or sexual nature? I thought you meant the former but nugirl responded as though it were the latter. Can you clarify? Link to post Share on other sites
Jtizzle Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 yes i agree with nugirl in a sense... he may be waiting to see what the chemistry is like btween you two when he comes home...people who hit it off on the net, may not hit it off IN PERSON.. and mayb hes thinking its too good to be tru for you to come into his life,etc...so on that note he may want to wait and see what your all about a little closer now..and i say that because he may not want to get TOO INTO YOU while hes so far away from the reality of a real relationship.. trust me, being with a soldier is hard work on both ends, and mayb he is just trying to make it easy for you. all in all, it could be more with you two, but time will tell though. Link to post Share on other sites
Miss Confused Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 it wasnt pictures LIKE THAT...when i say physical pictures, i meant pictures he could put in his wallet or so..he respects me very much in everyway..and me and my last bf broke up because of money issues, so my soldier had nothing to do with our breaking ways..and your both right, he could be waiting to see if we hit it off in person Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 My guess is this... he likes you as a person (from what he knows of you since you've never actually met) and while he was good to go with talking/emailing and what not... he got your package and got the vibe from you that you're wanting more with him than he's willing or wanting to give... I don't think he could've made it more clear in a nice way that while he likes you it's only as a friend... IME If a Guy is into you (as a romantic interest) they don't say or tell you "I really like you... as a FRIEND" same is true of Girls when they have a romantic interest in a Guy... Sorry... Link to post Share on other sites
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