dgiirl Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Damn, I feel like someone took a knife to my heart. Husband got back to me with a plan on splitting our assets. I guess I'm still in denial about the whole thing. Is there ANY hope he'll get a clue and want me back after he goes through all the legalities? I guess it dont matter. By that time I'll be out of the city with a new job/appartment. I'm going to be happy damnit! How long until I can finally accept that it's over? I know I'm torturing myself with hope, but somedays it's the only thing that keeps me moving. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 There are stages everyone seems to go through when a relationship that was important to them ends... Denial Sadness Anger Acceptance So know that you're not alone in that... When I divorced My husband honestly I knew it was the right thing to do because... Well because he's a Pr*ck Through out it all though he didn't think I would divorce him... then he decided he was bummed about it, then he was pissed off about it... and when it came time to accept it, he did that as well... Now I of course realize you're in a different place than I was as from what I understand it is your husband who has filed... BUT don't think for a minute that there isn't regret on his part or that if there isn't right now that there won't be ever... Although I don't regret divorcing My EXH I did feel sad that it had to end the way it did... and although he was a complete f*cktard and came off like he didn't care at the end of things.... he has regret. Choosing to be happy is the best place to start Girl... Know that you will be okay and happy again INSPITE of your STBXH... takes time... tiempo, tiempo Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted May 4, 2005 Author Share Posted May 4, 2005 Thanks Merin! Once again you're there to help me heal and understand this. I'm at a stage right now where I want the legalities to be over with. But at the same time, i dont want to push them in case he does change his mind. Swapping between denial and acceptance. And everytime I go into denial, I keep setting myself up to be hurt. I'm kind of getting use to the pain, just need to keep moving forward and take a little pain each day. Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by dgiirl Thanks Merin! Once again you're there to help me heal and understand this. I'm at a stage right now where I want the legalities to be over with. But at the same time, i dont want to push them in case he does change his mind. Swapping between denial and acceptance. And everytime I go into denial, I keep setting myself up to be hurt. I'm kind of getting use to the pain, just need to keep moving forward and take a little pain each day. You're Welcome Girl Honestly divorce sucks My A** LOL for real it isn't fun regardless of the circumstances... BUT When the time comes that the chapter is closed... I really do think it's when people are finally able to get on with life and live it... instead of just going through the motions... Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted May 4, 2005 Author Share Posted May 4, 2005 I have so many things to look forward to. I think (heh, we'll see when it happens) I'll be able to close this chapter. I've been so happy living in denial the last few weeks when I dont need to talk to my exh. I've been so very good at NC and getting on with my life. At the very least I'll be able to live in denial and progress with my life. And I assume the feelings will slowly fade away. F*ck it, I'm becoming a nun! Link to post Share on other sites
Merin Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by dgiirl I have so many things to look forward to. I think (heh, we'll see when it happens) I'll be able to close this chapter. I've been so happy living in denial the last few weeks when I dont need to talk to my exh. I've been so very good at NC and getting on with my life. At the very least I'll be able to live in denial and progress with my life. And I assume the feelings will slowly fade away. F*ck it, I'm becoming a nun! LOL I don't advice the Nun Route (not that there's anything wrong with that *Merin looks around* got out the disclaimer whew!) Denial is so great at times isn't it? LOL I like to pretend that I don't really have to go to work and I'll be okay... Ya know whats funny? When I first got seperated My EXH was such a ****er (Did I say was?) LOL that I was so pissed off one night I actually told his silly a** that IF I could get the judge to grant me an order so he (My EXH) Could NEVER talk to me again I would do it in a minute! Life will get Mo Betta for you in time... and yeah the feelings of misery don't last forever.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author dgiirl Posted May 4, 2005 Author Share Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by Merin LOL I don't advice the Nun Route (not that there's anything wrong with that *Merin looks around* got out the disclaimer whew!) Why does everyone keep saying that to me?! LoL Denial is so great at times isn't it? LOL I like to pretend that I don't really have to go to work and I'll be okay... Lol Ok ok, if you have to go to work, I guess I have to get a divorce *rolls eyes* lol Ya know whats funny? When I first got seperated My EXH was such a ****er (Did I say was?) LOL that I was so pissed off one night I actually told his silly a** that IF I could get the judge to grant me an order so he (My EXH) Could NEVER talk to me again I would do it in a minute! OMG, that would be so awesome!!! Well, since we have no kids, I guess I might be able to get this wish My x is such an ass. He emailed me saying "I assume you want this and that and the cat!" I had the cat before him! Like he's going to take my cat?! lol what an ass! Life will get Mo Betta for you in time... and yeah the feelings of misery don't last forever.... I'm trusting you Link to post Share on other sites
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