cvann Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 This is all so crazy to me. I dated my ex-bf for 5mths..we had an understanding that we were trying to help each other get on our feet and go from there..as time went on he started taking money out of my account...staying out late..not coming home at all (a few times)..and just a change in his attitude towards me. He got very controlling.. and violent. He started bringing weed into the house.. smoking it on occasion.. and selling it.. I didn't want that in my house.. but I was afraid to tell him..b/c I was afraid of him..he ended up going to jail for possession and it seems like everything after that mellowed out. He changed his cell phone number.. and started staying home all the time..but THEN.. he started drinking A LOT. Soon money was starting to disappear again.. and I started getting behind on bills,etc. I bought a brand new car.. which he took.. and totaled w/in 3wks of me buying it (drinking and driving).. and even STILL I was there for him. We moved out of state and tried to get a new start.. and once we got here.. w/in 3wks.. He broke up with me. A few days after the break up he started acting really aggressive, paranoid, and just mean. I didn't understand it. He was very uncaring and distant to me.. and doesn't even look at me now. He acts like I was nothing to him. He doesn't shave, doesn't iron his clothes anymore, and is NOT working..all he does all day is drink, smoke weed, sell dope.. and who knows what else..I'm very hurt and concerned about him b/c we both have children(none together)..I know that all he loves and cares about are his children, but if he stays down here on this crap he is never gonna get his life together.. I wanna talk to him and tell him how I feel.. but I think that he will just push me away..what should I do? Link to post Share on other sites
agnf666 Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 What you need to do is get far away from him as possible. He has took your money, totaled your car. He is putting you in debt. Even if you move to try to get a fresh start as you did... Drugs will always follow. If you are afraid of him then you need to just stay away from him. Maybe you could try talking to him with another person around so he won't do anything. If you get that chance then proceed to tell him that you hate him being this way, he needs to get off of the weed and stuff. What I want to know is why put your life and your childs life in danger... Link to post Share on other sites
Author cvann Posted May 5, 2005 Author Share Posted May 5, 2005 thank you for the advice..yeah.. I talked w/him briefly today and he is just so damn mean to me..it pushed me over the edge and made me realize that he doesn't care about no one.... I have done so much for him b/c I felt sorry for him and someone once gave me a chance to get my life on the right track..but I can't help the way things are.. and I know who I am and where I NEED to be right now for my kids..so yes.. you're right. I HAVE to move forward. Link to post Share on other sites
Elmo Posted May 5, 2005 Share Posted May 5, 2005 I get that you would want to be with him for the wildness... If you didn't have kids to subject him to. Poor kids. Link to post Share on other sites
Author cvann Posted May 5, 2005 Author Share Posted May 5, 2005 whoa..let me think..the wildness is an element.. but.. life of drugs and alcohol..are not me.. I am concerned..but not enough to continue w/this..overall.. I wish things were different.. but they aren't..my kids and I are no longer around him...but..I do still care Link to post Share on other sites
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