Healing tips

[symphonyofwolves]

Ok, so I've been told by numerous sources that after a bad breakup you're supposed to give yourself time to heal and learn to love yourself and rebuild your self worth and self confidence back up. I sincerely do not know how to do this!!

 

(Also, they say time heals all wounds. That may be true but I just don't know how much longer I can take feeling like this. I'm ready to move on already but I just can't! It's so frustrating!! What is the average time it takes to get over someone)?

 

I love myself yes, but I am super depressed. No matter what I do or where I go, I can't get the thoughts and images of him now with her out of my head. I fear I am going to be miserable and alone forever.

 

I say this because in the past my only coping mechanism over a bad breakup was to immediately find someone new.

 

This time, no one I meet measures up to the way I felt with my ex. I loved him on the deepest level that I have ever loved someone, and he still chose to go back to his ex instead of fight for me.

I've never loved anybody the way I loved him and now he's gone forever it seems, and I just know somehow that I will never find anyone like him. I don't want anyone but him. So it's really difficult to date and being alone and isolated with no friends for almost 8 months now just shacked up in my room everyday all day has really messed with my spirits. I feel hopeless.

 

I don't have any motivation or drive or ambition to do anything anymore. I'm literally just wasting away waiting to die. I miss him so much and pray everyday that he will come back to me and realize I was who he wanted all along, not her, but it's seeming to be more and more bleak that that will ever happen.

 

I've tried reading, walking, exercise, talking to close relatives about my situation, nothing helps. I don't really have any joys or passions in life. I've always gotten the most out of making my boyfriend laugh and be happy. Making him happy made me elated. Now that I can't be the one to make him happy anymore I feel really sad.

 

I don't know what to do. Music, animals, shopping, all the things that used to make me feel good just don't anymore. Please if anyone has some advice on what they do to cope with a failed relationship please please share with me. Thank you.

[TaraMaiden2]

Ok, so I've been told by numerous sources that after a bad breakup you're supposed to give yourself time to heal and learn to love yourself and rebuild your self worth and self confidence back up. I sincerely do not know how to do this!!

 

(Also, they say time heals all wounds. That may be true but I just don't know how much longer I can take feeling like this. I'm ready to move in already but I just can't! It's so frustrating!! What is the average time it takes to get over someone)?

 

I love myself yes, but I am super depressed. No matter what I do or where I go, I can't get the thoughts and images of him now with her out of my head. I fear I am going to be miserable and alone forever.

 

I say this because in the past my only coping mechanism over a bad breakup was to immediately find someone new.

 

This time, no one I meet measures up to the way I felt with my ex. I loved him on the deepest level that I have ever loved someone, and he still chose to go back to his ex instead of fight for me.

I've never loved anybody the way I loved him and now he's gone forever it seems, and I just know somehow that I will never find anyone like him. I don't want anyone but him. So it's really difficult to date and being alone and isolated with no friends for almost 8 months now just shacked up in my room everyday all day has really messed with my spirits. I feel hopeless.

 

I don't have any motivation or drive or ambition to do anything anymore. I'm literally just wasting away waiting to die. I miss him so much and pray everyday that he will come back to me and realize I was who he wanted all along, not her, but it's seeming to be more and more bleak that that will ever happen.

 

I've tried reading, walking, exercise, talking to close relatives about my situation, nothing helps. I don't really have any joys or passions in life. I've always gotten the most out of making my boyfriend laugh and be happy. Making him happy made me elated. Now that I can't be the one to make him happy anymore I feel really sad.

 

I don't know what to do. Music, animals, shopping, all the things that used to make me feel good just don't anymore. Please if anyone has some advice on what they do to cope with a failed relationship please please share with me. Thank you.

 

Time heals nothing.

All time does, is pass.

 

YOU heal.

 

I suggest you see your doctor about being prescribed some antidepressants, and monitor your use to prevent addiction.

Plus, I think you've reached a point where you can't do this on your own.

you repeat self-defeating thoughts and are sabotaging your own future.

 

You need therapy/counselling.

 

I honestly believe that.

See your doctor.

And soon.