xxPats Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 (edited) Hello everyone, Before I get started I want to say I'm new to the site and would love as much feedback and advice back. Thank you! My Ex boyfriend and I dated for almost 4 years. I ended things with him the end of summer August 2014, because our relationship just wasn't the same we fought a lot, and I was loosing feelings for him, and I was also going to be leaving away for college the following fall, living away from home and the city we lived in. By the end of September I officially had stopped talking to him, He continued to keep trying but eventually gave up I guess? A few months later he got a girlfriend, but this didn't matter I found out through a friend while I was away at college, but it didn't change anything I was doing my own thing and he was doing his own. From September until about May we stopped talking. We started talking the middle of may until about today, so we've been talking for a month. Now here comes the conflict.... Earlier this week my Ex and I hungout twice, we had fun and just went out for lunch and a walk, it was very casual and we agreed to be friends, whoever I could feel tension built up with us after a while like we missed eacht other after not seeing each other for so long. Now yesterday, we hung out at a local park and beach during the evening, we had a very deep conversation which got emotional for him, after hugging and talking we admitted to each other that we missed each other, which is a totally normal thing. However, later that night my and ex and I ended up kissing, (he went for the kiss) and we made out for a short period. The drive back was slightly awkward, but now today we haven't talked much and I feel awful, I have apologized to him several times for what happened and am trying to get him to talk to me so we can get things straight. I really don't know what to do, Im very mad at myself, and him for doing this to his new girlfriend of almost 8 months. HELP and Advice appreciated! thank you. Edited July 16, 2015 by xxPats Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 You already apologized. What more is there to talk about? He cheated. You participated. You both know it was wrong. It's clear the two of you can't just be friends. Back to no contact. 5 Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 16, 2015 Share Posted July 16, 2015 Why did you apologize to him? You should apologize to his girlfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxPats Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 I apologized to him because what we did was wrong, I don't think I should be apologizing to his girlfriend I don't really know her and we are not friends. That's something he should take of and do. Link to post Share on other sites
Author xxPats Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) Here's an update, we spoke again and this time things got very emotional for him. He admitted to me that he never truly got over me, while we stopped talking and now that we're talking he misses me even more. He still loves me and I like him, but I just don't know what to do. Edited July 17, 2015 by xxPats Link to post Share on other sites
Chi townD Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Hello everyone, Before I get started I want to say I'm new to the site and would love as much feedback and advice back. Thank you! My Ex boyfriend and I dated for almost 4 years. I ended things with him the end of summer August 2014, because our relationship just wasn't the same we fought a lot, and I was loosing feelings for him, and I was also going to be leaving away for college the following fall, living away from home and the city we lived in. By the end of September I officially had stopped talking to him, He continued to keep trying but eventually gave up I guess? A few months later he got a girlfriend, but this didn't matter I found out through a friend while I was away at college, but it didn't change anything I was doing my own thing and he was doing his own. From September until about May we stopped talking. We started talking the middle of may until about today, so we've been talking for a month. Now here comes the conflict.... Earlier this week my Ex and I hungout twice, we had fun and just went out for lunch and a walk, it was very casual and we agreed to be friends, whoever I could feel tension built up with us after a while like we missed eacht other after not seeing each other for so long. Now yesterday, we hung out at a local park and beach during the evening, we had a very deep conversation which got emotional for him, after hugging and talking we admitted to each other that we missed each other, which is a totally normal thing. However, later that night my and ex and I ended up kissing, (he went for the kiss) and we made out for a short period. The drive back was slightly awkward, but now today we haven't talked much and I feel awful, I have apologized to him several times for what happened and am trying to get him to talk to me so we can get things straight. I really don't know what to do, Im very mad at myself, and him for doing this to his new girlfriend of almost 8 months. HELP and Advice appreciated! thank you. 10 characters Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 I apologized to him because what we did was wrong, I don't think I should be apologizing to his girlfriend I don't really know her and we are not friends. That's something he should take of and do. Since he too acted he wanted it though, his further confessions should be proof enough. But yeah, from your position I guess you really don't need to bother with anything - then maybe at least push him to tell the girlfriend the truth and apologize, otherwise you're just signing up for a weakling. Link to post Share on other sites
Javelin Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 Im very mad at myself, and him for doing this to his new girlfriend of almost 8 months. HELP and Advice appreciated! thank you. Seems like there is more to this... Are you single? Link to post Share on other sites
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