Shattered___92 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Hi, I have being with my partner for almost 2 years now. And we've had quite a rocky relationship. A few months ago I was told that he had met up with his ex girlfriend which he tells to me he can't stand. Of course, he ignored & denied them meeting up. But the ex had told many of my friends details such as he had tried to have sexual intercourse with her more than the one time. And I had gotten into contact with the ex partner & she admitted he had reached out to her. Until this day he still denies it all. And when I asked him to prove his innocence, he had excuses such as ' i will contact her but if it makes it worse we aren't together anymore ' in which I was vulnerable at the time, I tried to trust & believe him. It has affected me majorly, and I don't know how to act on this. Because I don't want to be a fool & being played around by someone whom is supposed to love me. But than again he continues to say she's lying but I'm sure the girl wouldn't make it all up.. Not sure what to believe .. Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Shatterd_92, This is a difficult one. But than again he continues to say she's lying but I'm sure the girl wouldn't make it all up.. Has she got a reason for lying - is she an ex with an axe to grind, spite or does she have designs on your man? Why did they break up - who dumped who? At the end of the day if you can't trust him ( and you say it's been rocky) maybe you should think about whether you want to continue with this? Sorry x Link to post Share on other sites
Author Shattered___92 Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 I'm not sure. I don't know much about her. I'm sure he broke up with her. But my friends always told me how much she missed him. Or the relationship. I did call her up out of the blue & she did tell me a lot. So I'm sure she couldn't of made it up just like that. I'm not sure who to believe it's quite difficult. But I guess if he was so innocent, he would've proven himself.. Link to post Share on other sites
PegNosePete Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 So he is guilty until proven innocent...? What kind of "proof" are you looking for here? You want him to prove that he is not cheating on you? How can he possibly do that? Do you have dates and times for his possible indiscretions, and does he have an alibi? You're believing the word of an ex over his word; basically telling him that you don't trust him. Do you have anything more concrete, or any other reasons not to trust him? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 You don't want to be fooled but you just did. He manipulated you with his passive aggressive tactics.....he's a dick, dump his ass. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
kendahke Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Hi, I have being with my partner for almost 2 years now. And we've had quite a rocky relationship. A few months ago I was told that he had met up with his ex girlfriend which he tells to me he can't stand. Of course, he ignored & denied them meeting up. But the ex had told many of my friends details such as he had tried to have sexual intercourse with her more than the one time. And I had gotten into contact with the ex partner & she admitted he had reached out to her. Until this day he still denies it all. And when I asked him to prove his innocence, he had excuses such as ' i will contact her but if it makes it worse we aren't together anymore ' in which I was vulnerable at the time, I tried to trust & believe him. It has affected me majorly, and I don't know how to act on this. Because I don't want to be a fool & being played around by someone whom is supposed to love me. But than again he continues to say she's lying but I'm sure the girl wouldn't make it all up.. Not sure what to believe .. Does your boyfriend have a history of lying to you? What were the circumstances surrounding you and him getting together in the first place? Was he with her when you began seeing him and he broke up with her to be with you? Why has your relationship been rocky for 2 years? Why do you automatically assume that his ex isn't trying to break you two up so she can get him back? Sounds to me like she's doing the most to plant bombs with your friends and is using them to run and tell you what she wants you to hear so that you will hurry up and dump him so she can have him back. I wouldn't trust her as far as I could spit. She has ulterior motives. Link to post Share on other sites
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