makeithappen Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 Hello I recently took off the scarf and started wearing clothes my religious family would consider 'immodest'. I am planning on socialising with a group of young people from my community,But it will be near where my family lives. I think my siblings would rejoice at it to show to my estranged family that I only left home to become corrupt rather than because I felt abused. I'm worried of being seen and giving them what they want, But then I need a life... Suggestions? Link to post Share on other sites
bubbaganoosh Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 If you live at home with your parents it could mean whether or not you have a roof over your head. If you live on your own and of legal age where you can pay your own way then you can do as you wish but you'll still have very unhappy parents. All in all only you know what you can live with so before you do anything that causes a rift in your family, think hard about it and make your choice. It's your life and you have the right to live it the way you want but please think on it. Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 18, 2015 Share Posted July 18, 2015 Hello I recently took off the scarf and started wearing clothes my religious family would consider 'immodest'. I am planning on socialising with a group of young people from my community,But it will be near where my family lives. I think my siblings would rejoice at it to show to my estranged family that I only left home to become corrupt rather than because I felt abused. I'm worried of being seen and giving them what they want, But then I need a life... Suggestions? Difficult to say. I knew an Iraqi girl that basically got disowned by her parents for "westernizing". She did not live with them. She pretty much ran away to live her life. The mom eventually made peace with everything, but not the father. She's been hurting over her father for a long time now. I am a guy of Eastern European decent and I too have a story about the pressures of earning my family's approval. It sucks because it kept me from dating a girl I had a huge crush on that also liked me back Link to post Share on other sites
angel.eyes Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 Do you live away from your family now? Are you financially independent of them? In other words, can you support yourself financially with zero help from them? If your answers to these questions are all yes, then in one respect, you're free to do as you please. But clearly your family's opinion of you matters a great deal. It will be tough. Try to find someone who knows and understands your family and culture of origin and can give you support and advice during your changeover. Also you may see your parents' views as restrictive and pointless, but they are often there to protect you from getting hurt. At some point you will learn to appreciate their concerns for what they truly were. Link to post Share on other sites
ASG Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 It's good to hear from you OP! How are things going? As for your question, I would go for it. Your family has proved time and again they are only interested in keeping you under the thumb, and your decision to move away from them is probably for the best, so don't think too much about it. Just enjoy your new life as best as you can and make the most of it. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gunny376 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 There comes a time in everyone's life when you've got to make the decision to live your live for yourself and not for the lives of others. Be it friends, family, parents, siblings, etc. There's ALWAYS going to be someone joker out there that thinks your not living your life according to the way that they think you should live it, but oddly enough? They don't want to pay your bills in life, nor provide you with the things that you want and need? As you get older, mature, and gain some experience, you will eventually come to a point in life where you won't and don't give a damn about the opinions. If someone has a problem with the way YOU choose to live your Life? That's what it is ~ they're problem! Link to post Share on other sites
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