LovelyLump22 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 I am a 20 year old female and college student. I have a very strict mother who doesn't let me do anything. I can't take the bus because she thinks something will happen to me. I can't leave the house or do much on my own. I can only go to parties until 12:00 or 1am latest. I basically live under my mothers thumb. I do everything she asks, make good grades, no boy problems no babies nothing. Her continuous need to control me and protect me from everything has caused me to lie about a lot. Every relationship that I've had has been ruined because I can't spend time with them due to my mothers rules about not letting me go to their houses or them to mine. Anyway, back in November I got in a relationship with my boyfriend who's 21 and who lives a town over from mine but goes to school in Delaware. I haven't seen him since December. Our relationship turned long distance when he went to North Carolina during his winter and spring breaks. Now summer break is here and he's been in North Carolina still. He offered to pay my plane ticket round trip if I come to see him. He cannot come to our hometown because he is caring for a family member. I would be staying with he and his family. I really want to go because I don't want to disappoint him or myself. He's a great guy and I want to keep making things work. The problem is that I almost know my mother is going to tell me that I cannot go visit him. And I really just can't take anymore time away from him. Do you have any advice on how I could talk to her about this? Or how I could go about trying to see him? Link to post Share on other sites
Arieswoman Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 LovelyLumps22, The answer to this is very simple. If you are living in your mother's house and she is paying to put you through college then you live by her rules and just suck it up. When you have your college qualification and are earning your own living, you can get your own place and do as you like. And I really just can't take anymore time away from him. Yes, you can - he's your b/f, not essential medication. Link to post Share on other sites
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