jbrent890 Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 So a buddy of mine who is living out in LA just started dating a girl who does porn. The relationship doesn't bother me because she does porn, but because it is such a one-sided relationship. Even though he states the sex is good, it is infrequent because she is so tired and sore when she finishes for the day. I asked him if he was free to pursue no strings sex outside of the relationship and he said no. His girl feels that because everything she does is professional and her job, him seeking sex outside their relationship would be a form of cheating. She then told him that she doesn't get that much pleasure from the sex she has when filming. I immediately called BS on those statements. I love my friend to death, and even though he is happy now, I know him. Sooner or later, this is going to eat at him. From the outside looking in, it really does seem like this girl is using my friend to cling to a somewhat normal life. Again, it just seems very one-sided to me. I did some research and I found that a lot of porn starts approach their relationships this way in which they are allowed to screw men as long as its on set and their partners must stay monogamous to them. So my question is, knowing this, would you ever date a porn star? Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 19, 2015 Share Posted July 19, 2015 No I would not date a porn star. Lifestyles are too incompatible. Second, a lot of pornstars don't enjoy the sex that comes with job, which is why so many of them get into drugs (it helps "numb" them). Just because a stripper dances on guys for money does not mean she likes dancing on guys. She often does not. Next time you go to a strip club, know that the girl dancing on you probably thinks you're a douche bag. There are pornstars that like the sex part of it though. But the sex isn't continuous like you see on film? There are a lot of stops and interruptions during the filming. Link to post Share on other sites
craw Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I'd love to bang a male porn star. Just to experience it once. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Barf no. Especially if it meant I was the only one not getting any from them! You've got to be kidding me..... Why would they even want to date me? Because we might have a picnic on the weekend. I doubt they would want to come to 3 hours of church with me on Sunday. Really? Just too weird. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
craw Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Off topic: most normal people wouldn't want to spend three hours on Sunday sitting in church. Link to post Share on other sites
SycamoreCircle Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I dated a "sex worker" once, but a dominatrix so it's not like she was having sex at work. All titles aside, I think it comes down to how does the reality of the circumstances affect you. I got a lot of great stories and bragging rights(which admittedly amount to little). So mostly I got great stories. Some people, it would appear, don't date necessarily for the healthiest of reasons. Maybe they constantly need the company of people or feel empowered by the circulation of energy around them. Then I can see dating a porn star as a viable short term option. It did excite me---to think the person I was with made it her business to be in a "sexual" frame of mind. There's something very anti-establishment and rebellious about that, which I find sexy. This is really just a long winded way of saying personally no but philosophically yes. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamingoftigers Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Off topic: most normal people wouldn't want to spend three hours on Sunday sitting in church. LMAO, to be honest, I usually miss everything but the last hour. But still.... Link to post Share on other sites
No Limit Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Would your friend be interested in becoming a sex worker? This way it would be purely for business reasons as well. ... But chances are he'll have male clients only. Link to post Share on other sites
Sinful Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I used to be in the porn biz. I've dated porn chicks (no one famous enough that I'd call a "star"), strippers, and escorts... they're all cut from a similar cloth IMO. I have no problem dating them. It's more about the person than the profession. But with sex workers you have to be careful cause in my experience some of them are just too ***ed up to sustain a serious relationship. To the OP, I've had girls try to play that angle with me but I don't play that. My thing is if she can do it then so can you. If it's just sex then it shouldn't matter whether it's for work or play. And if that's her mentality, then just buy a video camera and start filming every girl you sleep with. You justify it by saying you're building content to start your own website... it's just work/business . Link to post Share on other sites
Brigit_1 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 I dated a "sex worker" once, but a dominatrix so it's not like she was having sex at work. So did you ask her to bring her work home? My guess is that she was probably very vanilla in her private life. After telling men to lick her boots all day she probably just wanted to kick back and watch CSI. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
jay1983 Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Barf no. . Double barf. Don't get me wrong I watch porn, but I wouldn't actually touch one of those girls. I'm much more comfortable watching from behind my computer screen where it's clean. Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 "Would You Date a Porn Star?" No. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
S_A Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 I'd love to bang a male porn star. Just to experience it once. Never heard a female say this (I am assuming you're not a guy). The guys in high production porn seem grimey as f***. I've met quite a few of them to know 1 Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 Most of the porn stars in my generation are long retired but I wouldn't mind dating someone like Kay Parker even though she's 70. Interesting lady and her male co-stars loved working with her back in the day of more 'natural' porn. I probably wouldn't do well with one actively working. Link to post Share on other sites
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