Phoenician Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 so after the 17 years of marriage ,I got separated from my wife few month back , I could not resist my boy invitation nor my girls begging, so I came back home last week. I m just venting in this thread ... me and my wife don't talk to each other since 2 years, we just talk about. kids needs and any financial issue. I woke up this morning at 5 am , and in this special day I just couldn't refrain from crying alone. it is not my wife that I miss , it is the feeling of unfairness, the feeling of being loved , there is nothing in the world more painful than feeling like a doormat . the only analgesic is when I play with my boy , you should see his face when we finished the tree house. you should see my face. then I fly when my eldest shows me her honor list and when the teen hold my hand when I Come back from work tired. I still have a long way to get out from prison .. just venting , excuse me also members...
BetheButterfly Posted July 19, 2015 Posted July 19, 2015 Peace Phoenican, I'm so sorry. the only analgesic is when I play with my boy , you should see his face when we finished the tree house. you should see my face. then I fly when my eldest shows me her honor list and when the teen hold my hand when I Come back from work tired. I still have a long way to get out from prison .. just venting , excuse me also members... You are so important to your kids, and that is awesome that you made a treehouse for him. Congratulations to your eldest for working hard at school, and what a caring teen! Personally, I don't think being a good father means you're a doormat. The world needs good fathers... there's a shortage of them in the world sadly. Why do you feel like a doormat please? 1
Author Phoenician Posted July 20, 2015 Author Posted July 20, 2015 Thanks Beth , I feel like a doormat , because my wife is taking advantage of me , i am not able to divorce ; this is the third time i come back home to stay home because of my kids;all services to kids are done by my . and No lady will date a guy who is just "seperated".
BetheButterfly Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Thanks Beth , I feel like a doormat , because my wife is taking advantage of me , i am not able to divorce ; this is the third time i come back home to stay home because of my kids;all services to kids are done by my . and No lady will date a guy who is just "seperated". Why are you not able to divorce? I think it's awesome that you love your kids.
xxoo Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 so after the 17 years of marriage ,I got separated from my wife few month back , I could not resist my boy invitation nor my girls begging, so I came back home last week. . Why not reassure and lead your children through the divorce and into a more stable home life, rather than flip-flopping and keeping them in instability? It's really unhealthy for them to have a leading role in keeping you unhappily married. 1
casey.lives Posted July 20, 2015 Posted July 20, 2015 Now that you know how much family means to you. stay put. you are not a doormat; you're a loving father. Romance will spring from good fatherhood.. hang in there. In the mean time, take joy from having the opportunity. Happy Anniversary 2
Author Phoenician Posted July 21, 2015 Author Posted July 21, 2015 Why not reassure and lead your children through the divorce and into a more stable home life, rather than flip-flopping and keeping them in instability? It's really unhealthy for them to have a leading role in keeping you unhappily married. I don't want to claim that my wife is unstable person (BPD) although she is . She is a careless mother & wife ; if kids request favors she becomes abusive (verbally most of the time). If I Divorce she will get at least 1 kid , and that kid will be smashed ... the current situation is great for the kids , for her ( all what she wants is to watch TV and play Candy crush ) , all the time ! No disrespect anymore in front of kids , no arguments ... during seperation I couldn't but come back when my boy called me crying over the phone .... I will stay , I have to , because the other option is to legally get the kids out of her hands , which means to use the Personal disorder excuse to get custody ; I can do that , but it will be harsh on my kids ... As long as she is doing nothing , litterlay nothing , she is fine ... I can survive like thise for few more years , then i will D her a$$ I am just venting here , especially in an event like this ...
spanz1 Posted July 22, 2015 Posted July 22, 2015 you mind is sure packed with unfounded b.s. talk to a lawyer, like NOW. see what your options really are. If she is such a lazy person, she will WANT you to take both kids, especially if you sweeten the pot with a little more spending money for her. 1
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