HoldOn Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Yes, god forbid someone save themselves for marriage. What a horrible thing to do.
RecordProducer Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Oh... and spare me the "You in Europe" comments please! I am not in Scandinavia or even western Europe.
RecordProducer Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn Oh you crazy slutty Europeans. LOL. Just kidding! I wish I were living a life of a slut - lots of sexxxxxxxxxxx!!!! :lmao: My BF is far away so I live like a nun.
tanbark813 Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by RecordProducer My theory is: as long as he loves me and is faithful to me, I will love him and be faithful to him. When that changes, adios! I am not going back to stone age! Exactly. Originally posted by HoldOn Yes, god forbid someone save themselves for marriage. What a horrible thing to do. Archaic, maybe, but not horrible.
HoldOn Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Hey, I'm no virgin. I just wish people wouldn't dismiss waiting for marriage as if it's some cra-zy idea that only freaks would consider. I think it's a valid (and better) choice.
tanbark813 Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 Originally posted by HoldOn Hey, I'm no virgin. I just wish people wouldn't dismiss waiting for marriage as if it's some cra-zy idea that only freaks would consider. I think it's a valid (and better) choice. But there's a difference. The waiting for marriage from the start, where you end up being a virgin when you marry, I can understand (even though I don't fully agree). It's the "waiting for marriage" that tiki was talking about, where you get your bone on with several guys first before depriving your future husband, that I think is ridiculous.
HoldOn Posted May 4, 2005 Posted May 4, 2005 some people make mistakes. Then they decide they were wrong and they want to wait. It's not like you "break the seal" and HAVE to have sex with a guy just because you've done it before.
tanbark813 Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Well of course you don't have to, but if the cock is available, why not partake?
moimeme Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 I think if I'd have saved myself for my H, he'd be (more) confident that I wouldn't just sleep with any ol' guy. Not logical. You have no idea what you're missing. If anything, it would logically make you more likely to cheat. However, if you have slept with other people, then your husband knows that you've tested the field and picked him. I'd far rather a partner who's had some folks before me than just me because otherwise he'd always wonder if he was getting the best. If he's been around, then he knows for sure
Chris777 Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by moimeme Not logical. You have no idea what you're missing. If anything, it would logically make you more likely to cheat. However, if you have slept with other people, then your husband knows that you've tested the field and picked him. I'd far rather a partner who's had some folks before me than just me because otherwise he'd always wonder if he was getting the best. If he's been around, then he knows for sure Isn't that like talking about drugs, where if you havent tried them all, you don't know what you like best/works? thats just how addicts get started is testing the waters. and then the next hit takes a little more, and a little more and then once they realize they will never get their fill they just pick someone and settle Seen a couple of "players" do it, and I don't know how many women that i used to work with
tanbark813 Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by Chris777 Isn't that like talking about drugs, where if you havent tried them all, you don't know what you like best/works? While admittedly highly addictive, studies have shown that pussy has more beneficial effects, and less detrimental effects, than crack.
BrotherAaron Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 Wait if you want. My ex didn't (and, dating me, who could? ), and the guilt destroyed her. As for not waiting, he has nothing to complain about it he's the one you didn't wait for. Hell, he apparently didn't wait for you either. Do you think he's going to cheat on you?
Hasmik Posted May 5, 2005 Posted May 5, 2005 I'd far rather a partner who's had some folks before me than just me because otherwise he'd always wonder if he was getting the best. Not logical too. If someone had say 10 partners and with one of them was the best, that someone still can think" hm, there is always better, who knows maybe I haven't met the best yet." I know many people who married their first sex partner and they were very faithful and were the one's to be dropped or cheated on. I wouldn't recommend or go for no sex before marriage I guess, but yes if you saved yourself for your H, he'd be (more) confident that you wouldn't just sleep with any ol' guy BECAUSE IT WILL SPEAK ABOUT YOUR STRONG MORAL WILL.
Author tiki Posted May 5, 2005 Author Posted May 5, 2005 Originally posted by Hasmik If someone had say 10 partners and with one of them was the best, that someone still can think" hm, there is always better, who knows maybe I haven't met the best yet." Yeah...my thoughts exactly. There could always be more to test.
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