clynn Posted May 4, 2005 Share Posted May 4, 2005 I've posted about this fella before. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?threadid=57854 But I saw him again just recently and he really makes me shake my head. We've dated in the past, but haven't really ever gotten serious and its usually just faded out then come back. I'm not exactly sure why, sometimes we argue, sometimes ill communication, sometimes hurt feelings, sometimes just plain old busy schedules, you know. But we are by no means a couple. However, out at a bar as a friend's band was playing. He was there, so was I, so were a bunch of other people he and I both know. (We've known each other since school - more than 15 years). When I'm chatting and flirting with someone - a guy - , he comes right on over, puts himself in a postion that assumes some type of connection between he / I - arm around me, that sort of thing. Now, he is kind of a forward personality and the other guy of course backs off. This happened consistently throughout the evening, as well as he comes over to me, as I was more over in the corner, and he said he wants to mingle, but he wants me with him, and so we mingle in the room together. And later on that night he went on with me about a guy who I was sort of talking with , and he said,..."Oh, he has a crush on you, don't you notice...?" He behaved similarily when I saw him at another social event a couple of months ago. but in the meantime it isn't as though I've heard a thing from him! Not a phone call! And yet he knows what I've been up, he told me he asks about me from our mutual friends. And it is obvious from what he says that he does. He also said that my friend told him that I said I was in love with him. (I did no such thing and I told him so). He said, yeah, I know, but it was wishful thinking. Bizarre? Link to post Share on other sites
Artscrafter Posted May 5, 2005 Share Posted May 5, 2005 Sounds to me like he's just being manipulative. He was basically marking you as his during that party so you couldn't start anything with any of the other guys. But then he doesn't actually pursue anything directly with you? Sounds to me like he's just trying to keep you within reach for his own unknown reasons. Either he should be more open and interact with you personally some more, or you shouldn't put up with his territorial habits. Link to post Share on other sites
Author clynn Posted May 5, 2005 Author Share Posted May 5, 2005 Yes. During these occasions he does interact with me personally also. I guess, but I don't really know how NOT to put up with his territorial habits without making a scene or being nasty. Link to post Share on other sites
RoseyLife Posted May 5, 2005 Share Posted May 5, 2005 i highly doubt he's just doing it to be a jerk. or manipulative. he has feelings of protection for you and sounds like he wants to be with you, but something (perhaps his immaturity right now and unwillingness to settle down?) is holding him back. keep it light, i would say... do not yield to this right now. he is trying to get you to make the move, but something is holding him from flat out asking you out, so i would not do anything until he makes the definitive move, or asks you out on a real date, etc..... don't consider pursuing him (as a lover) until he's brave enough and has overcome whatever is currently holding him back, and approaches you first. i'm not just saying this because "he's a guy" but moreso because he seems to be the one confused with what he wants right now. not seeing clearly... hope this helps. Link to post Share on other sites
Author clynn Posted May 6, 2005 Author Share Posted May 6, 2005 Well......a little late for that now cuz we've dated in the past. tee hee. But not currently. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted May 9, 2005 Share Posted May 9, 2005 well i think....wait!!? was there a question in there? Uh.....welll i will just assume you are asking whats up with this guy. I think he likes you, but figures it wont work out. So he just admires you from a distance and clumsly makes passes at you when he sees you. What we imagine will happen when we talk to that 'special someone' and what actually happens can be quite dissapointing. Im sure he has all sorts of wierd scenarios in his head that you will suddenly profess you love for him, and then you dont and he dissapears. ......well soemthing like that. i gotta sleep now. And yes it is strange. Link to post Share on other sites
Author clynn Posted May 10, 2005 Author Share Posted May 10, 2005 Hey, thanks = yeah, I guess it was a question about WHAT is UP with this guy?? Yikes! Yah, but we've dated before. But not currently. Yuck. And the first time around the dates stopped sometime after I laughed off his admitting he was falling in love with me. He told me in a sort of a roundabout fashion, as in "Me and the buddies were together this weekend, we got to talking about who I was dating (you) and I said, we are falling in love..." I laughed and said, "No, you didn't" I thought he was bull****ting me for some reason. Now I am pretty certain he wasn't but still..that was some time ago. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted May 10, 2005 Share Posted May 10, 2005 Well being the person who got broken up with is probably a kick in the ego. Maybe this is all some self serving fantasy of his where if he did get what hes wants, he'd just break it off and say 'hows that feell!!'.....the second L is not a mistake its to add effect *shifty eyes* Link to post Share on other sites
Author clynn Posted May 11, 2005 Author Share Posted May 11, 2005 What? Really? A self serving fantasy? How bizarre. How strange. Really? That's stupid behavior if that's the case. But he didn't get broken up with. Neither did I for that matter. We stopped dating, that's all. Then we did again. Now we don't again. But we do have these run ins occasionally. Krikey. Link to post Share on other sites
SuperFantastico Posted May 11, 2005 Share Posted May 11, 2005 Perhaps hes just feeling lonely right now. Like you were 'the one' or something. Sometimes after a while we only remember the good times and forget the bad or why things didnt work out. Heck im no professional. Link to post Share on other sites
Author clynn Posted May 11, 2005 Author Share Posted May 11, 2005 Yah, ain't that the truth. I always remember great things and good times with someone and so easily forget the reasons it didn't work out. ha ha! All the time, I forget that. How funny is that? Link to post Share on other sites
HoneyWheat Posted June 14, 2005 Share Posted June 14, 2005 Originally posted by clynn Yes. During these occasions he does interact with me personally also. I guess, but I don't really know how NOT to put up with his territorial habits without making a scene or being nasty. with this one you have to make a scene and be nasty he's ruining all your chances for meeting other men he's totally playing you and its also possible he is interested in someone else at the bar and needs your presence there to make her jealous don't let this dick use and manipulate you the guy is an a-hole he is being a jerk to you saying things to knock you down and get you interested in him...its a game he's playing games with your head get rid of him and don't be nice about it make sure you tell all your friends you are looking for a boyfriend and you want them to introduce you to ALL their guy friends...if he is the only option tell them to go to hell Link to post Share on other sites
Author clynn Posted June 14, 2005 Author Share Posted June 14, 2005 by the way, honeywheat, this is a different guy that the "potential awkwardness" guy. Just so you know. Link to post Share on other sites
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