LeXii Posted July 20, 2015 Share Posted July 20, 2015 Hi, My dad, my step mom, and all of my siblings live overseas, so I rarely get to see them. My dad and stepmom are separated and live in different states so even though I'm in the country now, I've been staying with my dad, who doesn't have the kids. My relationship with my dad is cordial at the best of times but I've always had a good relationship with my stepmom. My younger sister is also her stepchild and they haven't spoken to each other in almost a year. There has been so much family drama lately that the only reason I agreed to come visit was to see my siblings but I haven't seen them very much because I've been with my dad. I'm going back home in a week and I planned to spend my last weekend at my sister and brother's boarding school. My younger sister has agreed to drive me there because even though she and my stepmom aren't speaking, she has a good relationship with the other children. When I asked my stepmom's permission to go and see the kids she said no without giving a reason (I assumed it was because of her relationship with my younger sister). She won't answer my phone or texts to talk about alternate solutions. Also, everyone's been talking behind each other's back so much, not just in the immediate family but some of our aunts have also gotten involved. I'm afraid someone might even have talked behind my back to the kids, they seem a bit standoffish. Then again, it could be a puberty thing. I don't want to mess up my relationship with my stepmom or the currently cordial one I have with my dad but at the end of the day the only thing I wanted out of this trip is for my siblings to know that I love them above all else. If necessary, I will go and see them against her wishes though what I really want is to resolve this without conflict. It will likely be at least a few years before I have the chance to be with them again and I don't want to waste my time here dealing with drama. Any suggestions on how to resolve this? Link to post Share on other sites
anika99 Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 I don't understand your post. Where do your siblings live? With your stepmother? If they don't live with your stepmother then why on earth would you need her permission to visit them? While it's nice that you want to respect your stepmother I would think that you would value your relationship with your siblings more. Perhaps you could provide a bit more information regarding your family's situation. Link to post Share on other sites
SoleMate Posted July 21, 2015 Share Posted July 21, 2015 A lot depends on the age of the step-siblings. Also, if your father is a legal parent of them, he should be able to give you permission to see them. Or you can try to work with the boarding school. But long term, kissing your stepmother's butt in whatever way necessary may be the most effective approach. Link to post Share on other sites
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